My husband worries about me so much

[lightshineon]

  I I love, and appreciate his concern, it could be different. Every since we have been married he worries something bad will happen to me. I want to drive to a big city tomorrow to the mall to Christmas shop. I have driven in Seattle, Memphis, Raleigh, Little rock, name it never a problem. He says he is worried I will get killed in a wreck, that it is a bad road. I want to go, but do not want to worry him. I do not know what to do. He never lets me out at night alone, always locks the door behind him. He really has a phobia. Anyone relate? BTW, I love him, and glad he cares, but come on.

[Mac]

I I love, and appreciate his concern, it could be different. Every since we have been married he worries something bad will happen to me. I want to drive to a big city tomorrow to the mall to Christmas shop. I have driven in Seattle, Memphis, Raleigh, Little rock, name it never a problem. He says he is worried I will get killed in a wreck, that it is a bad road. I want to go, but do not want to worry him.

Well, it appears that you really do not appreciate his concerns. He cares about your well being. I am the same way with my wife and daughter. I asked her years ago not to go out after dark.. Unless she just needed to.. She has honored that all these years. Just yesterday she asked if I thought it was too late for her to go to the grocery store.. It was after 5:30. I am at work... I told her, "Well, it is really up to you." She promptly said, "No, you have always said not to be out after dark, and I want to know what you think.." I told her I would get what she needed this morning on the way home from work.

I do not know what to do.

Well, it seems that what you want to do and what you should do are two different things. What I mean is, there is nothing unreasonable in his request.

He never lets me out at night alone, always locks the door behind him. He really has a phobia. Anyone relate? BTW, I love him, and glad he cares, but come on.

As I posted, I have asked my wife not to go out after dark for years. Why? Because woman become targets to scum bags at night. It is only because I care. It is my job to protect her. All I am doing is trying to do that. It seems your husband is doing the same.

What phobia do you think he has? You think that because he locks the doors?

[Wrongway]

Hiya LOS,

Don't be so hard on the guy. Sure it gets frustrating at times but you have to remember why he's thinking & acting as he does... He Loves You. He Worries About You. That's what Love is...

Mac is right. He's only trying to do what he can.

And I understand there are things you need to do as well.

Maybe a compromise ? If he can't go with you then, find someone he trusts to go with you or a friend of yours to go with you ? (safety in numbers).

Also, remember earlier we talked a bit about firearms & permits & such ? if you're interested, tell him you'd like to get proficient in there use. Maybe take a course. Show him you're willing to take the steps needed to protect yourself.

Just a few thoughts.

W-W

[chosenone]

Wow I often go out at night and my husband never worries. My young adult kids go out at night and I never worry.My husband  is actually very trusting of God and has very few worries in life generally. I often go out with the dog in the evening or go babysiitting, many times returning late at night, It doesnt bother me in the least,but it WOULD bother me if my husband stopped me from doing it. I mean, he is just as likely to have a car crash or whatever as me isnt he.?
We have to learn to get rid of our fears and trust God. Fear means we are not trusting God surely.Yes we all have fears to come extent but we do have to fight them and not allow them to take over.

[His Princess]

My husband is exactly like this, too!  He worries that I'll get hurt, attacked by some crazy person, etc.  The other night I wasn't feeling well, thought I might have been coming down with the flu, and my husband said, "Now I'm going to worry about you all day tomorrow".  Actually, I think it's pretty sweet.  He'd rather get up and take me if I have to go out at night (which I rarely/never do), even tho' he leaves the house at 2:30 a.m. every morning.  I sure don't mind the feeling of being looked after and protected, it's nice!

[walker starr]

   Protection is one thing and its a good thing.  However its wrong to keep one's spouse a virtual prisoner.
   Where is the faith in the HOLY SPIRIT'S protection?   

[chosenone]

   Protection is one thing and its a good thing.  However its wrong to keep one's spouse a virtual prisoner.
   Where is the faith in the HOLY SPIRIT'S protection?   

Amen. I would feel stifled by that myself. God says that His angels are protecting us, and we need to trust Him. there is a difference between being sensible and letting fear rule us. The chances of anything happening to us are rare. Jesus says "do not fear" many times.

[His Princess]

That's true, but at least for me it's not to the extent of being like a prisoner.  I think most husband's worry at least a little bit about their wives' safety.

[Bon Voyage]

I I love, and appreciate his concern, it could be different. Every since we have been married he worries something bad will happen to me. I want to drive to a big city tomorrow to the mall to Christmas shop. I have driven in Seattle, Memphis, Raleigh, Little rock, name it never a problem. He says he is worried I will get killed in a wreck, that it is a bad road. I want to go, but do not want to worry him. I do not know what to do. He never lets me out at night alone, always locks the door behind him. He really has a phobia. Anyone relate? BTW, I love him, and glad he cares, but come on.

Make sure you don't talk on your cell phone while driving.  Hearing of your escapades the other day probably didn't help much.

[dallasapple]

He said he is worried about her getting in a wreck.Statistically she is more likely to get in a wreck within a few miles of her home .

After dark? To the grocery store? That is rediculous.Unless you live in a high crime area thats just over the top.I mean I can even see not being out "in the dark" late in the evening.But 5:30? Thats rush hour.Like I said its differnt if you are talking about being out real late where the chances are the people out that late are more likely to possibly be up to no good ..or could have been out drinking..IOW its not the "dark" IMHO its the hour and what type of people are more likely to be out real late.At 5:30 around here whos out is by majority  people coming home form work or taking their kids to after school activities and stopping by the grocery to pick up things on the way home..or families going to dinner etc..Oh and now its Chrismas so people shopping after work for presents.

I worry about my husband and my 20 year old for things like driving in a storm.Or on icy roads when there are many more accidents occuring.Or them traveling or to areas that are high crime..or the fact my husband refuses to wear his seat belt untill he sees a cop then he puts it on ..and the fact he uses his cell phone a lot whiel driving in his line of business.

Love

Dallas

[lightshineon]

 Do not get me wrong, I love my husband so much, and I am glad he cares, after all these years if he did not, I would wonder (LOL). He is taking off early and going with me to the mall. I guess he feels like he is my protector. Bo, I am not talking on cell in car anymore, using bluetooth, or pulling over, I am an excellent driver, and very picky with my ( sweet car), and would not wreck it, by being foolish. I park way down in Egypt, at walmart, the mall, or movies, so no one dings the door. I never speed, or do anything like that. I am an excellent driver. He says since he married me, he feels like he must protect me. I guess, I can see what Chosen and Mr. Walker are saying, but, I guess it could be worse. Like I said I have driven in major cities, many times. From Memphis, to Oklahoma and back  with three little kids, every month. I think when we were first married, we were at a major airport, he was walking behind, and I was bouncing ahead. This man stopped me and ask if I wanted a ride. I said no thanks an pointed at my husband. The man looked back, and took off. My husband swears to this day, it was a famous serial killer in the area. Crazy, as it seems, I think that has always burdened him. I really do love my husband, very much.

[dallasapple]

Do not get me wrong, I love my husband so much, and I am glad he cares, after all these years if he did not, I would wonder (LOL). He is taking off early and going with me to the mall. I guess he feels like he is my protector. Bo, I am not talking on cell in car anymore, using bluetooth, or pulling over, I am an excellent driver, and very picky with my ( sweet car), and would not wreck it, by being foolish. I park way down in Egypt, at walmart, the mall, or movies, so no one dings the door. I never speed, or do anything like that. I am an excellent driver. He says since he married me, he feels like he must protect me. I guess, I can see what Chosen and Mr. Walker are saying, but, I guess it could be worse. Like I said I have driven in major cities, many times. From Memphis, to Oklahoma and back  with three little kids, every month. I think when we were first married, we were at a major airport, he was walking behind, and I was bouncing ahead. This man stopped me and ask if I wanted a ride. I said no thanks an pointed at my husband. The man looked back, and took off. My husband swears to this day, it was a famous serial killer in the area. Crazy, as it seems, I think that has always burdened him. I really do love my husband, very much.

Yeah but the thing is we could all worry all day long about all the different possilbe bad things that coudl happen.My husband is the one that tring to be kind gave a ride to someone who asked him right outside DFW airport.The guy plyed the role of just into town from Jamaica (man) and needed a ride to the hotel he had booked.

The guy seemed nice enough and was making small talk for a while in the car then pulled out a gun held it to my husbands sid eand told him do what I say.He made him drive to a hotel parking lot and benhind it and just like in the movies said give me your walet..removed all the money..then said dont call the police untill I have been gone fo r5 minutes exited the car and walked off.

And P.S..that was in BROAD DAYLIGHT.It was the area my husband was in that was higher risk.Not darkness.

Love

Dallas

[lightshineon]

Do not get me wrong, I love my husband so much, and I am glad he cares, after all these years if he did not, I would wonder (LOL). He is taking off early and going with me to the mall. I guess he feels like he is my protector. Bo, I am not talking on cell in car anymore, using bluetooth, or pulling over, I am an excellent driver, and very picky with my ( sweet car), and would not wreck it, by being foolish. I park way down in Egypt, at walmart, the mall, or movies, so no one dings the door. I never speed, or do anything like that. I am an excellent driver. He says since he married me, he feels like he must protect me. I guess, I can see what Chosen and Mr. Walker are saying, but, I guess it could be worse. Like I said I have driven in major cities, many times. From Memphis, to Oklahoma and back  with three little kids, every month. I think when we were first married, we were at a major airport, he was walking behind, and I was bouncing ahead. This man stopped me and ask if I wanted a ride. I said no thanks an pointed at my husband. The man looked back, and took off. My husband swears to this day, it was a famous serial killer in the area. Crazy, as it seems, I think that has always burdened him. I really do love my husband, very much.

Yeah but the thing is we could all worry all day long about all the different possible bad things that could happen.My husband is the one that tring to be kind gave a ride to someone who asked him right outside DFW airport.The guy plyed the role of just into town from Jamaica (man) and needed a ride to the hotel he had booked.

The guy seemed nice enough and was making small talk for a while in the car then pulled out a gun held it to my husbands sid eand told him do what I say.He made him drive to a hotel parking lot and benhind it and just like in the movies said give me your walet..removed all the money..then said dont call the police untill I have been gone fo r5 minutes exited the car and walked off.

And P.S..that was in BROAD DAYLIGHT.It was the area my husband was in that was higher risk.Not darkness.

Love

Dallas

Wow, scary Dallas, did the catch him? It is like my husband on the train with terrorist in Dallas, turned them over FBI chase through train, they had box cutters on 9-12, it was broad daylight.

[dallasapple]

Do not get me wrong, I love my husband so much, and I am glad he cares, after all these years if he did not, I would wonder (LOL). He is taking off early and going with me to the mall. I guess he feels like he is my protector. Bo, I am not talking on cell in car anymore, using bluetooth, or pulling over, I am an excellent driver, and very picky with my ( sweet car), and would not wreck it, by being foolish. I park way down in Egypt, at walmart, the mall, or movies, so no one dings the door. I never speed, or do anything like that. I am an excellent driver. He says since he married me, he feels like he must protect me. I guess, I can see what Chosen and Mr. Walker are saying, but, I guess it could be worse. Like I said I have driven in major cities, many times. From Memphis, to Oklahoma and back  with three little kids, every month. I think when we were first married, we were at a major airport, he was walking behind, and I was bouncing ahead. This man stopped me and ask if I wanted a ride. I said no thanks an pointed at my husband. The man looked back, and took off. My husband swears to this day, it was a famous serial killer in the area. Crazy, as it seems, I think that has always burdened him. I really do love my husband, very much.

Yeah but the thing is we could all worry all day long about all the different possible bad things that could happen.My husband is the one that tring to be kind gave a ride to someone who asked him right outside DFW airport.The guy plyed the role of just into town from Jamaica (man) and needed a ride to the hotel he had booked.

The guy seemed nice enough and was making small talk for a while in the car then pulled out a gun held it to my husbands sid eand told him do what I say.He made him drive to a hotel parking lot and benhind it and just like in the movies said give me your walet..removed all the money..then said dont call the police untill I have been gone fo r5 minutes exited the car and walked off.

And P.S..that was in BROAD DAYLIGHT.It was the area my husband was in that was higher risk.Not darkness.

Love

Dallas

Wow, scary Dallas, did the catch him? It is like my husband on the train with terrorist in Dallas, turned them over FBI chase through train, they had box cutters on 9-12, it was broad daylight.

No but the police said there had been a rash of reports with the same description of him and his MO.He never got a call to come and identify the dude so Im assuming he got away with it or possibly was arrested for something else.I think he was "smart" being he didnt steal my husbands jewelry and thats in part how he evaded beign tracked.Unfortunaely though my husband always cashed his paychecks..and he had just cashed it and so the robber got over $500 .Im pretty sure that the guy new that he had that much money.My husband was in a convenience store (close to DFW) I think he might have seen my husband pull out his wallet and make a purchase and saw wad cash.(Im just guessing).


WHOA..what happned to yoru husband sounds liek a James bond film.Glad they caught them and your husband wasnt injured.

Love

Dallas

[walker starr]

   The HOLY SPIRIT was there !  All your husband really lost was dignity and money.  He wasn't shot  or struck
   so I still say thanks be to JESUS.  Your husband was protected.  aMEN.

[dallasapple]

   The HOLY SPIRIT was there !  All your husband really lost was dignity and money.  He wasn't shot  or struck
   so I still say thanks be to JESUS.  Your husband was protected.  aMEN.

Yes Im grateful.

He could have been killed.

He was very shaken ..he acually cried.

It also made me feel bad because he was trying to help someone out and they did that to him.

Love

Dallas

[lightshineon]

 I am glad husband is OK. Yes, of course my husband would be flying 9-11, ended up in Chicago. He went to union station on amtrack. he is a big man. he went to the dining car, and seen two ME men sitting at a table, ( he was thinking, do not sit me there), well the little woman sit him there. They ordered chili, and one was from India, did not know what it was, started sweating, ask the waitress to take it away. The had been disborded at NJ, where the terrorist had boarded. My husband ask, where they were going they said San Antonio, and when they said that, a big man named Jim, joined my husband, and said loudly " hey that is where I am from, where abouts? They started fumbling. A little black lady, who worked on the dining car came to my husband, ask to speak to him in private and said I do not want to profile these  men, I know how this feels, but will you come with me to the conductor, and tell him, how weird they are acting. The conductor was  a black man also, so they were sensitive to racial profiling. They stopped in Ft Worth, the FBI, got on the train, they ran hid, chase. They found them with box cutters, 20,000 in cash, body hair shaved. I think they planned after having failed in NJ to do something on the train. They would have not had box cutters, if not. The lived where the blind Sheik, and the rest of the terrorist lived in NYC. My husband is a big man, and Jim was bigger, so I think that is why they were sweating, and nervous. My husband left on the 10Th to Michigan, was supposed to return on the 10Th. I told him to leave me more money, because I felt like he would not be back on the tenth. His plane sat on the tarmac, and he had to stay over night, because he could not make connection, he was on the plane, when they made him get off, and find his way home. I think the Lord placed him there, for such a time as this. He did not tell me until, he got off the heartland express in a hole in the road. I am sorry, you all lost your money, but, thankgoodness they did not kill your husband. That is really scary.

[farouk]

Those pictures above are unnecessary to illustrate a point.

[Mac]

After dark? To the grocery store? That is rediculous.Unless you live in a high crime area thats just over the top.I mean I can even see not being out "in the dark" late in the evening.But 5:30? Thats rush hour.

Yea, my ex-wife used to have the same attitude as you do. Until she and her sister were sitting at a red light and some guy tried to get in their car. In the middle of traffic. No one jumped out to help my ex and her sister. They ended up speeding through the intersection with him holding on waving a gun. And it was NOT a bad area of town. Most criminals are smart enough to know that the police presence is more than likely to be close by in a high crime area. Much less likely to get caught in a nice area. He just slinked into the woods...

A good friend of our family owned a local repair shop/gas station. His wife was attacked and raped in a nice area of town at about 6 in the evening. Ruined her life.

There was a home invasion just a few weeks ago close to my neighborhood. A mother and her child came home by themselves right after dark. She was attacked. Eventually, they did catch 2 of the 3 though. But doesn't change her injuries.. Physical and mental/emotional.

I could go on and on... Yes, more happens in "bad" areas. But bad things happen in good areas as well. All the time.

I do have faith in the Lord to protect my wife and children. But I feel that it is unnecessary to take risk as well. This is kind of like the "my time to die debate". While I agree that when it is our time, we are going home to be with the Lord. However, I believe that it is possible to speed up that process by bad decisions... Just jump out in front of a car... Is that what God intended? How about suicide? Certainly not...

[dallasapple]

After dark? To the grocery store? That is rediculous.Unless you live in a high crime area thats just over the top.I mean I can even see not being out "in the dark" late in the evening.But 5:30? Thats rush hour.

Yea, my ex-wife used to have the same attitude as you do. Until she and her sister were sitting at a red light and some guy tried to get in their car. In the middle of traffic. No one jumped out to help my ex and her sister. They ended up speeding through the intersection with him holding on waving a gun. And it was NOT a bad area of town. Most criminals are smart enough to know that the police presence is more than likely to be close by in a high crime area. Much less likely to get caught in a nice area. He just slinked into the woods...

A good friend of our family owned a local repair shop/gas station. His wife was attacked and raped in a nice area of town at about 6 in the evening. Ruined her life.

There was a home invasion just a few weeks ago close to my neighborhood. A mother and her child came home by themselves right after dark. She was attacked. Eventually, they did catch 2 of the 3 though. But doesn't change her injuries.. Physical and mental/emotional.

I could go on and on... Yes, more happens in "bad" areas. But bad things happen in good areas as well. All the time.

I do have faith in the Lord to protect my wife and children. But I feel that it is unnecessary to take risk as well. This is kind of like the "my time to die debate". While I agree that when it is our time, we are going home to be with the Lord. However, I believe that it is possible to speed up that process by bad decisions... Just jump out in front of a car... Is that what God intended? How about suicide? Certainly not...

If you live in a high crime area  as I said..which apparently you do.


YOu should get yoor wife out of there so she can feel free to travel 'AFTER DARK'//

Love

Dallas

[Mac]

If you live in a high crime area  as I said..which apparently you do.


YOu should get yoor wife out of there so she can feel free to travel 'AFTER DARK'//

Love

Dallas

No, I do not live in a high crime area. In fact, I live in a very nice area of town. No area is immune to the criminal element. As I posted above, criminals know where the police are and likely to be. If you see a police/sheriff car in our neighborhood, people are staring down the street.

No, my point is, most criminals tend to think that woman are easy, vulnerable targets. Heck, my grandmother was attacked and almost killed in front of a grocery store (one of the nicest around)at 10 in the morning. Criminals are getting desperate these days. They can "scare" a lot of people into giving them what they want. Happens all the time. But some woman want to prove a point and pop off and resist. That is when bad things happen.

Again, the only way to avoid a problem is to stay clear of the situation. There was a time when criminals didn't mess with people in crowded areas. i.e.. parking lots, etc... But everything is fair game now.

[dallasapple]

If you live in a high crime area  as I said..which apparently you do.


YOu should get yoor wife out of there so she can feel free to travel 'AFTER DARK'//

Love

Dallas

No, I do not live in a high crime area. In fact, I live in a very nice area of town. No area is immune to the criminal element. As I posted above, criminals know where the police are and likely to be. If you see a police/sheriff car in our neighborhood, people are staring down the street.

No, my point is, most criminals tend to think that woman are easy, vulnerable targets. Heck, my grandmother was attacked and almost killed in front of a grocery store (one of the nicest around)at 10 in the morning. Criminals are getting desperate these days. They can "scare" a lot of people into giving them what they want. Happens all the time. But some woman want to prove a point and pop off and resist. That is when bad things happen.

Again, the only way to avoid a problem is to stay clear of the situation. There was a time when criminals didn't mess with people in crowded areas. i.e.. parking lots, etc... But everything is fair game now.

o.k ..


So as we have demonstrated its "day and night" that a "woman" needs " protection form a man?

Well I'll take my chances..because Im goign to the gorcery store at a decent hour without a chaperone.

And tell BLAH BLAH to never again talk about how women are just as violent as men if women are supposed to hide in their houses at 5:30 because the risk a man might mug or do something else to them.

Rediculous.

Love

Dallas

[Mac]

o.k ..


So as we have demonstrated its "day and night" that a "woman" needs " protection form a man?

Well I'll take my chances..because Im goign to the gorcery store at a decent hour without a chaperone.

And tell BLAH BLAH to never again talk about how women are just as violent as men if women are supposed to hide in their houses at 5:30 because the risk a man might mug or do something else to them.

Rediculous.

Love

Dallas

Wow... What did I do to deserve that? And for the record, I do not know Blah Blah.

What is day and night? Who said a woman NEEDS protection from a man? All I posted was that I do not want my wife to take a chance by being out late. That is all. I also posted that my wife was the one wanting to know if she should go out after dark. Leaving at 5:30 and being gone for a couple of hours, she isn't comfortable being out at night. So, I told her I would get the stuff she needed. No one insinuated she does or should hide in her home. Good grief.

Man, you are touchy. Kind of take the equal rights thing to another level don't you? Different strokes for differnet folks I guess. And by the way, my wife is capable of defending herself if she needed to. She just finds it more prudent not to be in the position to have to do so.

My wife finds it comforting that I care enough to be concerned. I guess I could be like some others and just not give a rip what and where she is. Her problem... Right? Good grief...

And to be clear here. It gets dark here at almost 9 pm for over half the year. So, dark this time of year is a little different. But I will not tell my wife to go out in the dark if she isn't comfortable. What ever her reasons may be.

[lightshineon]

actually he went with me shopping, and had such a good time, we went out to eat, and just talked.  So it did not turn out so bad after-all.

[HRoberson]

Hmmm......

[chosenone]

I would hate it if my husband wouldn't let me out after dark on my own. He isn't my dad and also he isn't the worrying type either. I often walk back in the dark from baby sitting jobs and also walk the dog on my own in the dark. I like to go out in the dark and I am never scared. It never bothers me at all. I trust God to protect me and I am well aware that the chances of anything happening are minimal.

If we worried about everything that could happen we would never go out, and we also have to remember that a large number of accidents happen in the home anyway.
We cannot live in fear of what may or may not happen. My husbands ex wife is very over protective and over anxious about her two sons who are now aged nearly 23 and 26. The thing is that she has made them like her and the youngest in particular is now anxious himself about what may happen to him and for a young man that is not good,and it is stopping him from spreading his wings and they are both still living at home and seem to have no desire to leave and be independant at all.

[dallasapple]

I would hate it if my husband wouldn't let me out after dark on my own. He isn't my dad and also he isn't the worrying type either. I often walk back in the dark from baby sitting jobs and also walk the dog on my own in the dark. I like to go out in the dark and I am never scared. It never bothers me at all. I trust God to protect me and I am well aware that the chances of anything happening are minimal.

If we worried about everything that could happen we would never go out, and we also have to remember that a large number of accidents happen in the home anyway.
We cannot live in fear of what may or may not happen. My husbands ex wife is very over protective and over anxious about her two sons who are now aged nearly 23 and 26. The thing is that she has made them like her and the youngest in particular is now anxious himself about what may happen to him and for a young man that is not good,and it is stopping him from spreading his wings and they are both still living at home and seem to have no desire to leave and be independent at all.

I completely agree with the exception if you are in a high crime area or if its really late in a larger city.We live in a "safe city" but the population is 250,000 and its a "family oreintated" city so we are safe.But if its for instance 1 or 2 oclock in the morning anybody still out may not be up to any good.

But we also have a high ratio of police to civilan population.

Not only do a lot of accidents happen at home so do crimes.And from what I understand most traffic accidents happen within a few miles from home.(statistically).

Just the whole 'after dark" thing is silly.TBH I feel safer going out in public "after dark" than I do in the middle of the day at home alone all day everyday.

And I feel "safer" driving on the highway 20 or 30 miles away than I do driving around in a parking lot at the local grocery store a block away as far as accidents.

I worry about things such as bad weather conditions when driving rather than distance.And of course the condition of the car if traveling far rather than the fact its far away from my husband.

And I dont think if your husband "allows" you to go out "after dark" and doesnt sweat bullets till yoru return safely  doesnt mean he cares any less about you than a husband who is watching the clock and wringing his hands untill you return.It would irritate me if I thought my husband was under "fear" because I was out in the 'dark" without him.

Love

Dallas

[k-pappy]

LSO, sis, I know I am going to get in trouble for saying this, but you pretty much need to ignore everything the women have said here.

Worrying about a wife is a natural thing for men.  It has nothing to do with a level of trust in God and everything to do with a natural tendency.  I always worry about my wife.  I love her very much and do not want anything bad to happen to her.  I would imagine the same is for your husband.  I do not think he is trying to control you.  He is just concerned for the woman he loves very much.

You should be worried if he does not fret.  

That's my anyway.  Fire away, ladies!  

Bond

[dallasapple]

LSO, sis, I know I am going to get in trouble for saying this, but you pretty much need to ignore everything the women have said here.

Worrying about a wife is a natural thing for men.  It has nothing to do with a level of trust in God and everything to do with a natural tendency.  I always worry about my wife.  I love her very much and do not want anything bad to happen to her.  I would imagine the same is for your husband.  I do not think he is trying to control you.  He is just concerned for the woman he loves very much.

You should be worried if he does not fret. 

That's my anyway.  Fire away, ladies!   

Bond

LOL!! No need to fire at you..Worrying about your spouse isnt reserved for men and their wives.I just think it reaches a point where your setting up limitations for your spouse in order to ease your worrying can reach extremes into what I would consider an infringment of mine or his  personal freedoms.

IOW worry if you want to.But Im not restricting my outside activities to day light only because you worry.Just like I dont expect my husband to restrict his outside activites to clear weather only.

Love

Dallas

[chosenone]

LSO, sis, I know I am going to get in trouble for saying this, but you pretty much need to ignore everything the women have said here.

Worrying about a wife is a natural thing for men.  It has nothing to do with a level of trust in God and everything to do with a natural tendency.  I always worry about my wife.  I love her very much and do not want anything bad to happen to her.  I would imagine the same is for your husband.  I do not think he is trying to control you.  He is just concerned for the woman he loves very much.

You should be worried if he does not fret.  

That's my anyway.  Fire away, ladies!  

Bond

Doesn't  Jesus tell us not to be afraid? So why do you think it is OK to be afraid of something happening to the one you love? If it is 'natural' for husbands to worry about their wives then Jesus wouldn't be continually telling us NOT to worry.

It goes totally against His teaching to worry about anything. We are to trust God with our spouses and children and not worry about them Fear breeds fear.

I am so glad that neither myself nor my husband  stress about each other or our children and what may or may not happen. Don't worry about tomorrow.Worry is a waste of time and emotional energy.
We have had bad weather here in the last week with snow, ice, freezing conditions. My kids have been travelling long distances to work etc. I could be worrying about them all the time But I don't.They are in Gods hands and The angels are with them. I don't worry.

As Job said "What I feared the most has come upon me" He was living in fear and guess what, what he feared most happened to him.    We should be working towards living free from fear and living at peace with complete trust in God. I am not there yet but I am working on it with Gods help.

MyY husband and I adore each other. He is the best thing that has ever happened to me,and I would be devastated if anything happened to him, but I dont worry about him all the time and neither does he worry about me.

[k-pappy]

Dallas, you're awesome, and I totally agree.  Worrying to the point of controlling the actions of your spouse is no good, no good at all, but if you are a human, you are bound to have a healthy amount of concern for your spouse.

LSO, have you talked to your better half (hehe) about this recently?  Any resolution?

Bond

[poohgirl]

I can be a worrier, no doubt.  Maybe it has to with experiencing too much or maybe being raised by a worrier has had impact too.  Either way worry is no fun and it solves nothing.  

We unlike some you stated do live in a high crime area and I don't mean so much our neighborhood as much as the entire central area and surrounding counties.  Some of the wealthiest areas that are gated used to be considered the safe areas, but not no more.  Their homes get broke into in broad daylight and sometimes even with people home.  It's not uncommon to hear often about people being attacked by knife point in parking lots in good areas or people being shot.  So, the way I see it you need to show some caution when out and about be it day or night, but you shouldn't stop living.   Common sense can go a long way.    It's important to be aware of your surroundings wherever you go.  

My husband worries about me some if I am not home by around the time stated I most likely would be and I can get concerned about him when he is oncall at 2:00am  too.   I don't drive alot at night, because all the bright headlights kill my eyes at night.  I drive to work in the morning in the pitch dark, but there is not much traffic so alot less lights in my eyes.

I like my husband looking out for me, because it makes me feel cared about. That's alot better than having a spouse who could care less.  But that's just me.  To each there own.  Either way if it works for the couple then I guess that is what really matters.  

[lightshineon]

 My husband just never flat out says " No", he just suggest other things. he is a good husband, and will do anything he can to make me feel loved, even if he speaks twenty words per week (LOL)