What I want in a woman, according to God's grace.

[BobMan]

I am sorry, I dont have the forum thing quite down yet. So sorry if this was meant to be a "reply".

This was going to be a responce to dothackzero's post about what he wants in a woman. I think I see it under mine. Anyway, this is a list of what I also want in a woman, according to my will and that of God.

1. She must be quiet and unassuming
2. She must be intelligent and have a good standard of education and be able to hold a good conversation with me.
3. Good mannered in all respects. Notwithstanding this day of equality, I want her to e.g. a. Hold the door for me - Car, particularly if she is taking me out for the night and I have dressed especially for the evening: House door, and make sure I am safely inside. By this she must not be flamboyant in her approach, so that it looks unnatural, but do this as a matter of course as it flows from her upbringing. b. Stand up when anyone enters the room. c. Hold the chair for me at dinner particularly when out at a restaurant. d. Not embarrass me in front of friends, family and neighbours, e.g. talking in public
4. Offer herself as a object of my affection at my will.
5. Let herself be a possession i.e a car, tv, dog etc.
6. Treat me as a better.
8. She must trust me in all things and not be suspicious of my motives and she must be trustworthy.
9. Not assume that I will always fall in with her plans
10. Talk all matters through with me first and consider, and most of all, value my opinions, after all, she should want a marriage.
11. Not to be domineering and have the need to show all and sundry that "I am the woman, and I wear the trousers!"
12. She must respect me as a person, intellectually.
13. She must be forgiving.
14. She must be slow to anger.
15. She must love me unreservedly.

[ForgivenDaughter]

Let us know when you find that one!       

[Hot Ice]

Let us know when you find that one!       

I don't think I can remember the outbreak of laughter when a woman, or group of women, make a list of these types of things that they want in a man.

[Hot Ice]

There is nothing inherently wrong with wanting things in a mate, things that one has on a list of some sort.  And the fact that nobody is perfect is so obvious that it needs no stating or clarifying to anyone who has lived past the age of 6.  However, if there is a shortage in either gender, in a given country or area, of the qualities on anyone's list, that is another subject, altogether.

I personally am coming to believe that what we are seeing in all of the lonely single/divorced/widowed people in the world is an outworking of what God told us a long time ago would happen.  check 2 Timiothy 3:

v. 2  "For men shall be lovers of their own selves, covetous, boasters, proud, blasphemers, disobedient to parents, unthankful, unholy, "

v.3  "Without natural affection, trucebreakers, false accusers, incontinent, fierce, despisers of those that are good, "

v.4  "Traitors, heady, highminded, lovers of pleasures more than lovers of God;

v.5  "Having a form of godliness, but denying the power thereof: from such turn away."

v.6  "For of this sort are they which creep into houses, and lead captive silly women laden with sins, led away with divers lusts, "

v.7   "Ever learning, and never able to come to the knowledge of the truth. "

v.8  "Now as Jannes and Jambres withstood Moses, so do these also resist the truth: men of corrupt minds, reprobate concerning the faith. "


We see this going on in so many marriages today, and so many torn-up homes.......  It would see that the same heart condition that brings that about is behind the difficulty in the singles scene.

[ForgivenDaughter]

I can't say - I wasn't here - and I probably would have laughed at that too....

We are human and faulty - and none of us is capable of being all of that all of the time - either the wife or the husband - so, really, I can want what I want, doesn't mean I'll get it - but I can find grace in forgiving my spouse (or future spouse) for when they err - and if you expect to find it all, all the time, in one person - you (male or female) have a long wait in front of you.

That being said - sometimes you don't have a 'say' in who you 'fall in love with'....

[BobMan]

The reasons  for this list is that people have told me that my collection of artwork / sculptures that I have made over the years were "Disturbing". I may have some sculptures of women eating live decapitated dogs, but thats because  that all thats usually on my mind. Im not CRAZY, am I?

[comfy]

Well, Bob Man, it does say, "Set your mind on things above, not on things on the earth." (Colossians 3:2)

But I can see that symbolically to mean a woman is biting the head off of a guy who is a dog trying to use her. And, considering how a number of men have just *used* women, I would have no problem with that for a meaning, except we in Jesus are into forgiveness and compassion for people who use us and hurt people, etc.

So, if your and my minds are on stuff not exactly above, this could effect if God pleases to trust us with one of His real ladies of Jesus.

I need to become how God would want me to be in a relationship with a really honest and genuinely loving lady, so I can connect with such a beautiful person. So, I need to have in me what is in her, so we can connect.

"rather let it be the hidden person of the heart, with the incorruptible beauty of a gentle and quiet spirit, which is very precious in the sight of God." (1 Peter 3:4)

So . . . what do I need to get? Never mind me just telling others how they are wrong. And never mind me settling big doctrinal issues, etc.; ministering is not for status. And love does not have me trying to just *use* people. And I have been corrected about how I can judge a woman about if she is someone I want to marry and then just not be interested in her if she isn't who I want; but God wants me to personally care about every woman, and love each one.

What else? I need to be humble; God wants me to personally share with Him in His peace, seeing how He has me feeling and seeing things, in His peace, and discovering what He has me doing, and being interested in each and every other person, not just ones I want to *use* for attention or status or romance, etc.

And I have had more disturbing things going on in my imagination than a woman biting a doggie's head off. It's not really important to know what people may think of us, and if they might give us a label of being "crazy", etc. There are plenty of people who want to judge others, and they may welcome any excuse to have someone who looks worse than they are, so they can look down on the person and say, I'm not like that. So, we all need however God gives us our makeover.

[chosenone]

I think bobman is making a joke......................

[mind boggled]

  Pick me! Pickme! (lol)

[comfy]

I can be gullible

Actually, I considered the first post might be meant to be silly. But when I read the one about the doghead-hungry women, I did bite for that one.

There are times when I am not sure if a poster really is in a situation, but I'm a just-in-case person who will give someone a serious answer, knowing the poster may be yucking it up that the person got me going. But I also know someone else may be someone who would have been able to make the same post as what is true of that person. And so, for any guest viewers I might include things that can be helpful.