I need help, I wanna make things work but.......

[christ2lead]

Hey everyone, i first wanted to say that im only 21(male) and single and im posting this here because maybe someone who been through this and can help me

ok, long story short, I love this girl(pastors daughter) and she has a lot of feelings for me and we want to date soon(maybe in like 2more years because of school) so for now were in the preparation stage of trying to get things together in our lives. I think about her daily and I want to do as much as I can to impress her parents. a year ago, we were great friends but she didn't know that i liked her a lot, but I would ask her if someone was to ask her out how would she react. she said that she would freak out and ignore that person. she meant that for someone who she didn't know well that she'd ignore that person BUT i only seen it as her freaking out and our friendship not being the same so i had crazy feelings for her and it was like 4months that i really liked her but was too afraid to say anything. i end up trying to put space between us to see if these feelings would go away. so at the end of the year (december) her older sister(23) came to me n we were talking n it felt like we were talking for the very first time after knowing both her and her sister for over a year. me and the older sister spoke for 3weeks straight while putting space between me n the sister that i like. the older sister reminded me alot of the one that i like and i told her that i like her. I only told her that i like her because she reminded me of her younger sister.

to end this, the older sister took this the wrong way and told her mom, me n the older sister to talk as often as we did and she's ok with me not really liking her like that(no grudges) but the sister i like found out that i told her and she feels out of disrespect she can't talk to me nor she don't kno how to go to her parents and tell them about me. there's more to this but I'm jus giving the big picture, i like her and want to make things happen, and yes God plays a big role into our lives so we pray daily and were still waiting on an answer if its ok that we date, I just need advice on what to do, how can I show her that everything will be ok, and wat can I tell her parents when the time comes

help me please.... Praying hard

and i mean i want to do the courtship thing when I say dating

[JohnDB]

You are gonna have to get some backbone and start declaring the truth for a change.

I ain't saying that you need to wear your emotions on your sleeve but actually stating your preferences and likes is something that you solely own that only you can stand up for.

The young lady that you like so much needs to know....and her sister.

Whether or not you get either girl really isn't material at this moment. Your standing up and stating clearly your own feelings is.

You really ain't ready for any relationship until you can do that.