to pursue or not to pursue . . . (c:

[comfy]

There is pursuing that even a cave man can do lololololololol

How about resting in the LORD so a lady can join me in rest, like how Mary "sat at Jesus' feet and heard His word"? (in Luke 10:39)

[chosenone]

There is always a balance......

[comfy]

. . . and no two couples are the same

At this point, if I got serious about someone, then, I might talk with her and ask her if she wants to be pursued or what she finds is God's way for her "And how do you want me to pursue you?" I don't think it would be smart to let others speak for her. Not all people are the same.

[chosenone]

If a man shows no interest in a woman, then how will she know he is interested?

I am all for trusting God, resting in Him, while being proactive at the same time. Resting in God doesnt mean doing nothing, it means doing what is good and helpful and right for the situation.

[comfy]

How will she know I am interested, if I don't do anything?

Oh that is true, Chosen One.

I have an issue with pursuing someone, because she could feel harrassed. But I think we have people who have even irritated the ones they kept pursuing, and then the pursued one changed and they got married and are glad they did. So . . . yes to balance . . . and each person is different.

So, someone may need encouragement, though the person may at first be irritated and rejecting. So, I would say pray and do what God blesses.

I now would say I have been too hair-trigger to take a woman to be rejecting me, instead of being more about caring about her and what is good for us and not so worried about if someone wants me and what I get or not.

I may not be right for marriage, but I have found it very good for me to stay with the same person and people in friendship, and always be open for how we can do good, each next time we are together And with growing . . . there is no knowing . . . what can happen!