disrespect?

[polo27]

Ive been dating a christian guy from church for about 7 months. to be honest right from the start i had doubts on and off but i ignored them coz i was attracted to him.

after a while we ended up messing about too much. He would confuse me one time saying we need to stop that and the next time he would make comments and didnt seem to want to even try to stop. Each time i felt guilty and i think he knew i wasnt entirely comfortable, but i was probably giving him the wrong impression. We would go to his room, and end up on his bed. I think i knew in my head what he was like coz he made a blatant comment about sex, implying he had no problem with it, before i met him i wanted to wait for marriage. then one time he said he agreed with me and would should stop the physical stuff, 2 weeks later (the first time we were alone in his room) it happened again, but i dont fully blame him for that.

After that we had a disagreement coz he wanted me to take some of my clothes off but i wouldn't, he said it was ok we would keep our clothes on. then the next time we ended up messing about again... what did he do, twice he tried to remove my clothing, then said he wanted me in my underwear, of course i objected, he also wanted to have sex with me one night but i said no i was a virgin and he stopped right away. since then he knows I dont want to have sex but he has made about 3 obvious comments referring to wanting to have sex with me. I think he is struggling with lust but he dosent seem to even try to control it at all.

We are not even in a committed relationship and he hasnt told me he loves me, yet he wants sex and dosent seem to respect my wishes. coz of all this i dont fully trust him, so why would I have sex with him. He seems to treat sex like a bit of fun that feels good and he just wants it and dosent think about my feelings in this. Its like he has more desire for my body than me as a person and he is jut thinking of his urges. Part of the issue if probably lack of communication. I am i am kinda blaming my self too because i didnt stop him before and i kept on letting it happen, and maybe i lead him on giving him mixed messages.

I think i know deep down what i need to do, but i just want to believe he is a decent and respectful guy. I keep making excuses for him, like he is a man, struggling with lust and cant control his urges. I am quite depressed at the moment and always struggle with lack of self esteem and i just cant seem to make a decision about him and end it. AAHH HELP!!!

[chosenone]

Polo if you are wanting a guy with morals and integrity, then you know what you need to do. If you want a guy who doesnt treat you with respect, who thinks that sex is just casual fun and who has low morals, then stay with him.
What are you doing playing round on the bed anyway?Its asking for trouble.
Go on just end it now. Stop making excuses for him, of course men can control their lusts and sexual urges. However godly boundaries need to be set when you are in a relationship.