Torn and confused

[SunnyD]

This maybe a lot and not every detail is listed, but enough should be given for even a tad bit of advice. I would really appreciate your help. i have asked my friends, but they just get all mushy and are not must help so I thought some out side perspectives/ fresh ears (eyes) would work.

As the subject notes I am in a situation that has left me torn and confused. While in college I befriended a male friend. I didn't go into the relation with the intention of falling for him, in fact he at the time he was not my type, but over time i guess that changed. As far as I know for sure he only likes me as a friend, but I have been in certain situation that would lead me to assume other wise. For example have never met his parent before, when i am introduced it was as if they had been waiting for this day to come and then a few days later she friend requested me.  We both have graduated and moved to different cities so I am trying my best to move on, but my brain wont let me. Randomly I will just think about him and how/what he is doing and when this happen I will talk to God or read my bible, anything to get my mind off of him. more recently I have started dreaming about him. In the past I have dreamed about him, but it was for other spiritual reason. What I am dreaming about now is life as if we are dating.

What has me so torn and confused is I try my hardest to move past this guy, but I cant. And then to top it off my subconscious want to butt in and drive me crazy. So should i tell him what going on with me, is God giving me a glance of my future or am I still getting over him...just the hard way?

Side notes/details: one time we did go on this date like/outing. maybe he was testing the water, but he invited me (and just me as far as i know) to this event that some of his friends were going to. we had a great time from what i could tell, but that was all. most of our hanging out was done in groups. also one time he asked me to join his prayer group, but i declined because at that time i was beginning my processes of "getting over " his and praying with him was not helping the situation.

[chosenone]

Hi Sunnyd

I think you have two choices
1)contact him and tell him how you feel and risk rejection, (but at least you will know for sure where you are)
or
2)assume that he would have made it clear if you were more than a friend to him after all this time and move on.

I personally would go for number one because then there will be no doubt and if the answer is no you can stop wondering. What have you got to loose?

If there is no future with him, then you will have to try and stop fantasising about him, because the more you feed this the longer it will take to move on.
I wouldn't see much into the fact that you are dreaming about going out with him. We often dream about things that are on our minds a lot.   

God Bless