Is it appropriate for a married men telling a woman who is not his wife that...

[aprayingwife]

Is it appropriate for a married men telling another woman who is not his wife that he thinks she is SEXy?

Is it appropriate that this husband did it behind his wife's back because he thinks it's the wife's being jealous issue and  he has not done anything wrong?

[chosenone]

 
Its not only totally innappropriate, but its very very wrong and very dangerous and playing with fire. If I were that woman I would keep WELL away from that man. He doesn't sound as if he can be trusted at all.  If I were the wife and found out I would be pretty upset.  That sort of talk is for a man and his wife.

[Red Baker]

Its not only totally innappropriate, but its very very wrong and very dangerous and playing with fire. If I were that woman I would keep WELL away from that man. He doesn't sound as if he can be trusted at all.  If I were the wife and found out I would be pretty upset.  That sort of talk is for a man and his wife.

It is not only wrong, but wicked. 

[chosenone]

If you are the woman he said it to, I think you need to tell him straight out that what he said was very wrong, and after that avoid him like the plague. WHat was he hoping to achieve by saying that? Was he wanting things to go further? Don't trust him.

[TJW]

It is not only wrong, but wicked.

Yes.  It comes from an evil intent.

[MeMyself]

It is not only wrong, but wicked.

Yes.  It comes from an evil intent.

I would agree...I can't imagine any wholesome purpose from uttering something like that to someone other than the man's wife.

and its even worse that he is trying to convince the wife that she is the one in the wrong.  Disgusting behavior! BOTH things he has done! 

[HRoberson]

Is it appropriate for a married men telling another woman who is not his wife that he thinks she is SEXy?

Is it appropriate that this husband did it behind his wife's back because he thinks it's the wife's being jealous issue and  he has not done anything wrong?

Such behavior is idiotic, inconsiderate, offensive, and arrogant.

[aprayingwife]

Dear all,

I am NOT the one who the man told this to me.
I am the wife, a grieving-heart wife (forgive my English, English is not my mother tongue) found out this.

I post this question because I want to make sure that this is not my jealousy issue.
I won't use your comments to argue with him or to accuse him.
but I do need you all to pray for me and for him, for our marriage.

For a long time, whenever it comes to the behavior between two different genders,
he immediately says that's my jealous issue.

I can accept that he said to other women that they are "good-looking",
but  I believe it is not right when he did this, and saying other one is "sexy",
both doing it behind my back.

I am not saying that I am a perfect wife, no one is perfect.
I am not saying that it's all his fault that our marriage comes to this place
that he did this. Somewhere in the long run, there are times that I am responsible, too.
I know that I am a sinner and need help.
I believe in the power of prayer, the prayers from those who loves God.
Would you please pray for us?

[chosenone]

Dear all,

I am NOT the one who the man told this to me.
I am the wife, a grieving-heart wife (forgive my English, English is not my mother tongue) found out this.

I post this question because I want to make sure that this is not my jealousy issue.
I won't use your comments to argue with him or to accuse him.
but I do need you all to pray for me and for him, for our marriage.

For a long time, whenever it comes to the behavior between two different genders,
he immediately says that's my jealous issue.

I can accept that he said to other women that they are "good-looking",
but  I believe it is not right when he did this, and saying other one is "sexy",
both doing it behind my back.

I am not saying that I am a perfect wife, no one is perfect.
I am not saying that it's all his fault that our marriage comes to this place
that he did this. Somewhere in the long run, there are times that I am responsible, too.
I know that I am a sinner and need help.
I believe in the power of prayer, the prayers from those who loves God.
Would you please pray for us?

Its not right for him to tell other women that they are good looking either. Its normal for someone to be jealous if there is good reason to be, as there is in your case.
Is he a Christian?

[Carey]

A married man telling another woman she is sexy is crossing the line, it is a term loaded with intention.

I wouldn't even bring the term jealousy into it, this is about respect for his wife's feelings.  Jealousy is a loaded word today, usually applying to unwarranted feelings, hence the husbands use of it to make this about the wife's problem, rather than his actions.

[DaveW]

"Jealousy" can be a godly principle:

Exodus 34:14  —for you shall not worship any other god, for the Lord, whose name is Jealous, is a jealous God—

Deuteronomy 4:24  For the Lord your God is a consuming fire, a jealous God.

Deuteronomy 5:9  You shall not worship them or serve them; for I, the Lord your God, am a jealous God, visiting the iniquity of the fathers on the children, and on the third and the fourth generations of those who hate Me,

Deuteronomy 6:15  for the Lord your God in the midst of you is a jealous God; otherwise the anger of the Lord your God will be kindled against you, and He will wipe you off the face of the earth.

Your husband is just making excuses for his own sinful behavior. IT is akin to following an idol.

[Laurel]

How obnoxious of this man to make the wife feel that she is the one at fault.  Nowhere in the Bible does it say that a woman should tolerate her husband's wandering eye or that she is "jealous" if she doesn't like seeing him show interest in other women.

Jesus told us not to lust in our hearts.  When a man tells a woman that he finds her sexy then he is admitting to lustful feelings toward her.  Why would he tell her that, if he was not hoping that she would respond to him in the same way?

[Carey]

"Jealousy" can be a godly principle:

But when the husband says to her "that's (her) jealous issue,"  he is not using it in terms of a godly principle, rather an unfounded, irrational suspicion she has, which is what I was addressing. 

Of course in this case her feelings are not irrational or unfounded, so she is entitled to a little righteous jealousy, regardless of what her husband might think or use to forgive his behaviour.

[DaveW]

"Jealousy" can be a godly principle:

But when the husband says to her "that's (her) jealous issue,"  he is not using it in terms of a godly principle, rather an unfounded, irrational suspicion she has, which is what I was addressing. 

Of course in this case her feelings are not irrational or unfounded, so she is entitled to a little righteous jealousy, regardless of what her husband might think or use to forgive his behaviour.

Right.  He is trying to turn something God-given into "...her problem."