Wife is consideraing leaving. help

[NIMPTR]

Quick update. Since returning home she was in a less than desireable mood today (horrible) and I finally had enough and called her on it. I know its not the best approach but 2 months of walking in eggshells takes it toll. She tells me she sees me being a great dad but says i dont give her any attention. Im less convinced that shes having an affair but more if a selfish discontent crisis. Anyway i controlled to conversation and told her I owned my issues but she has done nothing. I told her when she acts cold and repulsed at my sight, I react by doing my own thing. I told her shes running from the problem by doing everything she can not to be home. For once she didnt disagree. She said there is no one else (still not totally convinced) but she acknowldeged she does not want to divorce and admitted she may need some anti depressants. Small victory in a huge war.

As I said, pray for proof.
Those who are are cheating will always deny it until shown real proof. Even if not physical as yet, an EA is just as dangerous and needs to be stopped. There is no need to be secretive with our phone if we have nothing to hide. Ask if you can both be completely open with phones and emails etc. Ask for her passwords and give her yours. If she has something to hide then she will accuse you of being controlling and refuse.   

I have known so many in your position who have come back later to say that we were right, their spouses were cheating. The signs are all there, sorry, but they are.

Just an update. We've had a couple of talks recently (brought up by her) and I feel like we've accomplished a lot. She has agreed to see a counselor and maybe try some anti depressant meds. She has also been much more intimate with me lately and has told me many times she loves me and wants us to work. I've been monitoring the texts and calls. Nothing out of the ordinary. Her cell phone does not have the KIK app or any secret texting app. So far there is no indication of an active PA or EA, but I know she's ripe for one with all the external attention she's been seeking. Not out of the woods yet, still trying to be my best so she can be her best. Thanks for all prayers and advice.

[chosenone]

Its positive that she wants to work on things and go to counselling.

Does she think she is depressed?