The hardest part about being single and Cristian?

[Just_me123]

I think we all face issues in relationships. But being Christian sets us apart, right? So when we start dating, the rules are a little different. Sex is supposed to be off the table, a Christian man can still dog you like unbelievers do, and sometimes you find someone who isn't as serious about their walk. So I'm just curious....What kinds of challenges have you had in dating?

[chosenone]

When I was a single mum for 6 years, the most important thing for me was a mans faith. I was really only interested in a man with a strong faith, high moral values, honesty and integrity. I did my dating on line, meeting up with three men, none of whom were right, getting to know a few more on line only till I met my now husband who is all those things I wanted. I would say never compromise on what you want and don't settle for second best(ie a non believer or weak believer who thinks its OK to have sex before marriage for example).

[Bluesman]

I met my last girlfriend just before I was saved. We were good together in many ways, but as my faith grew deeper the relationship became increasingly less fulfilling.  My girlfriend said she believed in God & was open to Christianity, but had no interest in reading the scriptures. She didn't believe that Jesus was God - just that He was a holy man who was not resurrected - & she would often curse using His name. I realised we were "unequally yoked", & eventually we stopped seeing each other.

Since then I've been single for a few years, happily for the most part. I genuinely enjoy being alone, which did not happen before I was saved. When I do feel ready to date I guess I'll join a Christian dating site like chosenone did, although part of me thinks if Jesus wants me to meet someone He'll guide my way to the right person at the right time!

Peace, love & blessings.

[Alan]

I spent 3 years in courtship prior to being married just this past July. It was never difficult for myself, or for my girl, but we were very intent on placing ourselves in situations that could be the beginnings of temptation. That said, I am 52 and somewhat past the age of peak sexuality, so again it was probably easier for me than it might have been if I was 25ish. The wait was well worth it 


Do not just avoid evil, but avoid all appearances of evil.


Do not compromise your faith for what is seemingly innocent.


A relationship is not what you get out of it, it is what you put into it that makes it work.


Remember to keep God first and He will show you the right person.


Blessings!

[chosenone]

I met my last girlfriend just before I was saved. We were good together in many ways, but as my faith grew deeper the relationship became increasingly less fulfilling.  My girlfriend said she believed in God & was open to Christianity, but had no interest in reading the scriptures. She didn't believe that Jesus was God - just that He was a holy man who was not resurrected - & she would often curse using His name. I realised we were "unequally yoked", & eventually we stopped seeing each other.

Since then I've been single for a few years, happily for the most part. I genuinely enjoy being alone, which did not happen before I was saved. When I do feel ready to date I guess I'll join a Christian dating site like chosenone did, although part of me thinks if Jesus wants me to meet someone He'll guide my way to the right person at the right time!

Peace, love & blessings.

Yes but He can do that using the internet:-) I have a great husband and I would never have met him but for the internet. I always say to people, a good partner wont come knocking at your door, and for a believer especially, its a very good way of meeting other believers. In the UK Christians are pretty thin on the ground otherwise.     

[Goshin]

I divorced my wife after I found out she had been unfaithful. I got a test to make sure I was free of STDs for my peace of mind, and haven't been in a relationship, or so much as held hands with a woman since I got divorced 8 years ago.

I'm in my 50's, and sex isn't out of the question for me by any means, but when you live alone I've found it best not to think about it. I'm too old to get back into the dating scene, and don't even know any girls I'd want to go out with. I had an onllne relationship once and it was the least fulfilling, most frustrating, relationship I've even had, so a dating site is not an option I'd consider.

I spend most of my time home alone and have resigned myself to not ever being in another relationship. The divorce took too much out of me emotionally, and after having lived by myself and spending most of my time home alone for several years have got set in my ways, and don't even know if I'd want to be in another relationship. Right now I do what I want, when I want, if I want, without answering to anyone but God.

I do all my own cooking, laundry, cleaning, etc. and have found it's a lot nicer to sit in a clean apartment than one that looks like a dump, so I keep it clean and don't let things pile up. I live in an upper floor of the building, so a dog would mean walking it at all hours of the day or night in all kinds of weather. The first thing a cat would want to do is walk on my keyboard, and that wouldn't go over well with me, so pets aren't something I'm ready to take on. I have a lot of nice houseplants instead that you only have to water every few days or so, and they help make the place look nice and clean the air.

At times I do feel like I'm missing out of a big part of life not being in a relationship, and being alone leans more toward being lonely, but I'd rather not be in a relationship than a bad one. I'm pretty good at managing my time though, and have several different interests, so when boredom sets in I try to find something to occupy myself.

I have a strong faith in God, but haven't been going to church on a regular basis for quite some time. I did go to church with my sister and her husband last weekend, but am not sure if it's one that I want to attend on a regular basis. I do feel like God is calling me back to church and am trying to find one I'm comfortable with that I can call my home church while I still have the chance.