Am I a fool?

[JCL]

I think my sin is that I've been making an idol of my family.
Ever since I was a kid I wanted to put the broken pieces back together.
People were hateful to each other and did a lot of harm and created a lot of crises.
I've made a lot of over-the-top sacrifices to aid and support and help and encourage. Sometimes enabling when I had to run interference.
Prayer was a big part, and sharing faith and hoping it took hold. I didn't always do things perfectly, but I just wanted people to be at peace.
Along the way, I never expected kindness toward me, but just pushed my own needs out of the way in the hopes that people would move beyond their woes.
It's cost money, it's cost time and tears. It's a good thing it didn't cost me my sanity.
And now at 45, I'm looking at this lifelong pursuit of family (at it for 41.5 years), and I see no change in the attitudes or postures of these people I call family.
They are still plagued with selfish behavior.
Oh, they email me and contact me when they need something, and I'm so grateful for those morsels. But beyond that, nothing. I reach out and there is no interest.
I just wonder how I can to value myself so little that I came to have no expectations.
It's so deeply disappointing. All along, I've felt my incompetence at this task. Nothing I did was blessed.
I don't know the purpose to my life. I've not really helped anyone. I never controlled anything or manipulated anyone - I've always spoken the truth to people who were causing strife - and loved them through the rift. The goal was always reconciliation and restoration.
And there were little micro-advances, and I'd be hopeful. But the same people (siblings and parents) all fell back into the same pit.
I've become angrier over time, exasperated. I don't want to try anymore - or that's my stance tonight.
I suspect for all these years, I've made an idol of family.
Please share your wisdom. I don't need attaboys, just the truth, plainly, even if it hurts. 

[chosenone]

Maybe the time has come to let them go. Sometimes people need to be allowed to sink into the pit before they realise they need God.
Youcant possible be responsible for their bad behaviour and maybe God is saying, let them be, leave them in my hands and move on.
Do you have your own family, spouse, children?

[JCL]

Thanks for replying. That's the conclusion I'm slowly arriving at.
To answer your question: I have a husband, but unfortunately we were unable to have children.

[MurphysDaughter]

I know this "Fixer" role all too well.  In your pursuit to show other's the Peace of Christ that passes all understanding, you have lost that yourself.  You've planted the seeds of faith, and love in their soil.  It's up to them to fertilize this garden, and make it grow.  I agree with the other that stated they may have to sink into a pit of despair, and our Lord is the only one to help them.  We have been given the beautiful gift of faith, and prayer.  Pray a healing over them, believe it, and claim it.  Don't feel broken about not seeing a positive lasting result.  Lean not on your own understanding, and know that God in His perfect wisdom, will deliver the outcome that is for the better of the good.  Stay strong sister, and I pray that you once again know the peace that only the Savior can deliver.