in need of some advice and prayer!

[isanc25u]

Hi this is my first post ! I just want to say before hand, god bless all of you ! And i hope you guys are having a good day.

Ive been married close to a year now... met my wife at church. before being married we had a very close friendship as we lifted each others spirits as we got over our previous relationships. We were at a good point in our lives as i thought , but just recently she asked for a separation as in a little time alone.. it lasted roughly about a week before she came and told me it was a dumb mistake.  But she told me that in that week she spoke to her ex in which she started to think about him & told me she was startimg to lose feelings for me as well.. she says she recognizes that these thoughts are wrong against us and our marriage but she feels she doesnt know what to do ... ofcourse i fekt a slight bit betrayed but ive put that aside to deal with the issue at hand. Weve decided to pray and put it in gods hands. But i dont know how to go about this situation.., any advise guys ?

[chosenone]

She is letting her thoughts and desires stray to another man,  and this has taken her eyes off you and the marriage and the promises she made so recently. She has no reason to separate or end this marriage, and I would suggest that you both go and see the pastor and maybe a good marriage counsellor. You say you both want to put it in Gods hands, but God has already told her what to do, be faithful to you and remain in the marriage, and stop thinking of this other man. Work on the marriage and keep the vows that she made. 
She should have no contact at all with this other man either.

[Mr_Handsome]

Hi this is my first post ! I just want to say before hand, god bless all of you ! And i hope you guys are having a good day.

Ive been married close to a year now... met my wife at church. before being married we had a very close friendship as we lifted each others spirits as we got over our previous relationships. We were at a good point in our lives as i thought , but just recently she asked for a separation as in a little time alone.. it lasted roughly about a week before she came and told me it was a dumb mistake.  But she told me that in that week she spoke to her ex in which she started to think about him & told me she was startimg to lose feelings for me as well.. she says she recognizes that these thoughts are wrong against us and our marriage but she feels she doesnt know what to do ... ofcourse i fekt a slight bit betrayed but ive put that aside to deal with the issue at hand. Weve decided to pray and put it in gods hands. But i dont know how to go about this situation.., any advise guys ?

This is why I advise Christian men not to marry. Because of feminism and the divorce laws, marriage for men is far too risky.

[chosenone]

Hi this is my first post ! I just want to say before hand, god bless all of you ! And i hope you guys are having a good day.

Ive been married close to a year now... met my wife at church. before being married we had a very close friendship as we lifted each others spirits as we got over our previous relationships. We were at a good point in our lives as i thought , but just recently she asked for a separation as in a little time alone.. it lasted roughly about a week before she came and told me it was a dumb mistake.  But she told me that in that week she spoke to her ex in which she started to think about him & told me she was startimg to lose feelings for me as well.. she says she recognizes that these thoughts are wrong against us and our marriage but she feels she doesnt know what to do ... ofcourse i fekt a slight bit betrayed but ive put that aside to deal with the issue at hand. Weve decided to pray and put it in gods hands. But i dont know how to go about this situation.., any advise guys ?

This is why I advise Christian men not to marry. Because of feminism and the divorce laws, marriage for men is far too risky.

So you advise men to remain single and never have children? How is that godly advise? How about these Christian men actually trust God for their lives and let Him lead them to the right partner, instead of living in such fear that they wont even get married.   Thankfully nearly all Christian men do marry and have children. Especially as sex outside marriage is forbidden.

Marriage is an amazing thing. A God given blessing for us to enjoy with another person, and in which to have children, who are also a great blessing the Bible says.
I know so many godly and happy marriages, and the men in them seem MORE than blessed.

[Mr_Handsome]

Hi this is my first post ! I just want to say before hand, god bless all of you ! And i hope you guys are having a good day.

Ive been married close to a year now... met my wife at church. before being married we had a very close friendship as we lifted each others spirits as we got over our previous relationships. We were at a good point in our lives as i thought , but just recently she asked for a separation as in a little time alone.. it lasted roughly about a week before she came and told me it was a dumb mistake.  But she told me that in that week she spoke to her ex in which she started to think about him & told me she was startimg to lose feelings for me as well.. she says she recognizes that these thoughts are wrong against us and our marriage but she feels she doesnt know what to do ... ofcourse i fekt a slight bit betrayed but ive put that aside to deal with the issue at hand. Weve decided to pray and put it in gods hands. But i dont know how to go about this situation.., any advise guys ?

This is why I advise Christian men not to marry. Because of feminism and the divorce laws, marriage for men is far too risky.

So you advise men to remain single and never have children? How is that godly advise? How about these Christian men actually trust God for their lives and let Him lead them to the right partner, instead of living in such fear that they wont even get married.   Thankfully nearly all Christian men do marry and have children. Especially as sex outside marriage is forbidden.

Marriage is an amazing thing. A God given blessing for us to enjoy with another person, and in which to have children, who are also a great blessing the Bible says.
I know so many godly and happy marriages, and the men in them seem MORE than blessed.

At the end of the day it's men's choice. I just give them what I believe to be the best advice. You know a lot of men who are happy in marriage. I also know men who have been destroyed through marriage. I advise Christian men to remain single and focus on God's kingdom, to store their treasure in heaven and to forget about earthly things.

[Rella]

Hi this is my first post ! I just want to say before hand, god bless all of you ! And i hope you guys are having a good day.

Ive been married close to a year now... met my wife at church. before being married we had a very close friendship as we lifted each others spirits as we got over our previous relationships. We were at a good point in our lives as i thought , but just recently she asked for a separation as in a little time alone.. it lasted roughly about a week before she came and told me it was a dumb mistake.  But she told me that in that week she spoke to her ex in which she started to think about him & told me she was startimg to lose feelings for me as well.. she says she recognizes that these thoughts are wrong against us and our marriage but she feels she doesnt know what to do ... ofcourse i fekt a slight bit betrayed but ive put that aside to deal with the issue at hand. Weve decided to pray and put it in gods hands. But i dont know how to go about this situation.., any advise guys ?

This is why I advise Christian men not to marry. Because of feminism and the divorce laws, marriage for men is far too risky.

You must be an amazing man to be able to live a celibate life , but what advice do you offer those men who have a "normal" drive sexually.

If we women are so bad for men, and masturbation is not being of a worthy pursuit in following God what are they to do?

FYI, I am not a feminist and detest having been knocked off my pedestal. But it was a man... not woman.... who told me that women were knocked onto their backs and there they would remain. It was not ever going to change again, but that is aside from the advice you want to give the OP....

I do have a personal question for you.... was your own mother so very bad for your dad?

If they had not gotten together and made you, you would not be here advocating that Christian men stay single.... Which begs another question...

I wonder where future generations are to come from if there is to be no marriage? Surly you are not advocating
illegitimacy?

Well, good for you that you can follow in Paul's footsteps, but most cannot.

[Mr_Handsome]

Hi this is my first post ! I just want to say before hand, god bless all of you ! And i hope you guys are having a good day.

Ive been married close to a year now... met my wife at church. before being married we had a very close friendship as we lifted each others spirits as we got over our previous relationships. We were at a good point in our lives as i thought , but just recently she asked for a separation as in a little time alone.. it lasted roughly about a week before she came and told me it was a dumb mistake.  But she told me that in that week she spoke to her ex in which she started to think about him & told me she was startimg to lose feelings for me as well.. she says she recognizes that these thoughts are wrong against us and our marriage but she feels she doesnt know what to do ... ofcourse i fekt a slight bit betrayed but ive put that aside to deal with the issue at hand. Weve decided to pray and put it in gods hands. But i dont know how to go about this situation.., any advise guys ?

This is why I advise Christian men not to marry. Because of feminism and the divorce laws, marriage for men is far too risky.

You must be an amazing man to be able to live a celibate life , but what advice do you offer those men who have a "normal" drive sexually.

If we women are so bad for men, and masturbation is not being of a worthy pursuit in following God what are they to do?

FYI, I am not a feminist and detest having been knocked off my pedestal. But it was a man... not woman.... who told me that women were knocked onto their backs and there they would remain. It was not ever going to change again, but that is aside from the advice you want to give the OP....

I do have a personal question for you.... was your own mother so very bad for your dad?

If they had not gotten together and made you, you would not be here advocating that Christian men stay single.... Which begs another question...

I wonder where future generations are to come from if there is to be no marriage? Surly you are not advocating
illegitimacy?

Well, good for you that you can follow in Paul's footsteps, but most cannot.

It really depends on what you want in life. The Bible does say that it is better to remain single because you have more time to do God's will. When you are married you have more responsibilities. But the Bible tells us to set our minds on things above not on things on earth.

For men marriage is more of a danger than a blessing. For years I have seen women, even Christian women, leaving good men but staying with bad men. Some years ago I came across a sermon by a famous American pastor who was talking about this issue. He said that every time he visits a church he gets men telling him how their wife just went off with another man and ended the marriage. I've personally known really good caring men to suffer the same fate, where after 10-15 years of marriage their wife, out of the blue, decided to go off with another man.

You would think that a woman who goes to church wouldn't do this, but going to church doesn't mean you are truly born again. Because of the feminization of our culture, the idea that women don't need men, a woman needs to put on the whole armour of God and have Jesus in the centre of her heart at all times. In the beginning Satan chose to deceive the woman, and he's still deceiving women today through feminism. A man has every reason to be weary of marriage. It's just too risky.

I can only go by what I've seen over many years. I didn't wake up one day and decide that marriage is too risky for men. It's what I've witnessed over many years that has made me feel the way I do.