Need help, prayers.... getting attacked massively

[PraiseintheStorm]

Deleted.  Thank you.

[Tertullian]

Welcome to the 21st century, where Liberalism has made marriage miserable by corrupting the attitudes of men and especially women.

As for the girl, here's how it'll work if you pursue her:  If you're lucky, she'll shut you down right away.   You're making yourself a creepy old (compared to her) man.

If you're unlucky, she'll find you attractive and then she'll allow you to dig a deep hole for yourself.  Your feelings will grow for her.  You'll have an affair.  If your wife finds out, that'll make your marriage far worse.  Your friends and associates won't respect you.  Your relationship with her will eventually end because it's not going anywhere, and she'll dump you for another man. She'll have college age boys trying to get her attention, to them she'll give in.  You'll be emotionally devastated and feel more alone than ever.

When your fantasizing what might be with her, remember:  IT WON'T END WELL.

I suggest you concentrate on improving your marriage.  There are piratical things you can do.  But, most of the advice you'll get will be worthless.  But, here's a hint: Man up.

[RB]

Please keep me in your prayers.  That's why I'm here.  I completely know that this is wrong.  Thank you.

The gentleman who posted first gave you the best advice that you most likely will receive, so I would suggest the same as he did. The more you are infatuated with another woman, other than your wife, then remember what Tertullian said:

IT WON'T END WELL.

To this, I fully agree with.

[PraiseintheStorm]

Thanks for the opinions, which are 100% correct, obviously.  I thought I was pretty clear that this is something I'm struggling with and I'm here for support.  It took a lot for me to even come here and I get lectured about, "manning up."  That's why I CAME here to get some people praying for the situation.  Anyway, thanks. 

[Tertullian]

Thanks for the opinions, which are 100% correct, obviously.  I thought I was pretty clear that this is something I'm struggling with and I'm here for support.  It took a lot for me to even come here and I get lectured about, "manning up."  That's why I CAME here to get some people praying for the situation.  Anyway, thanks.

I know you're struggling.  I wanted to affirm what you already know, because you asked.

Since when do two words constitute a lecture?  You can't even respond to me without acting weak.  Man up.

[Stranger]

PraiseintheStorm

Manning up won't help you.  You need to cut ties with this woman no matter what.  Cut of all visits and contact.  Send her to another counselor and separate yourself from her.

If you keep seeing her, no  prayers are going to help.  You are going to have sex with her.  See Gen. 39:12.  You have to flee.

If you don't flee, you're just going to do what you want to do.

Stranger

[Tertullian]

Manning up won't help you.  You need to cut ties with this woman no matter what. 

The man-up advice was to help his marriage, not about dealing with the girl. 

[PraiseintheStorm]

Thank you both.  I'm sorry that I was touchy.  I'm just embarrassed by the situation.  I'm embarrassed that I even have these feelings.  Thanks again for your thoughts.  Honestly, I really do appreciate it.  I'm sorry I deleted the original post, I was embarrassed. 

Also, I'm not having sex with anyone other than my wife, but I do appreciate the warning.  I can't really cut ties.... been dealing with this person for years, literally.... even her family loves me.  If I just said get lost, it'd actually be kinda hurtful.  I honestly think I can overcome this with God.

One of the first things I need to do, besides continuing to pray (and, seeking advice, like what I've done here), is to STOP trying to spend time with her.  I mean, outside of appointments.  I've been doing that, I'm ashamed.  And, she's given me reason to.  The end of an appointment, "I can stay longer, but if you gotta go, that's cool, see you next time,"  .... "I have no where to be right now" and boom, there we are hanging out for no reason.  Happened a few times.  That has to stop. 

[PraiseintheStorm]

Not that anyone cares, but been praying about this A LOT.  Realizing there are major issues in my marriage and I'm finding happiness and joy in another person that I was able to make laugh and that made me happy.  Been asking God to take that feeling away.   Been getting closer to God because of this.  Trying to find happiness in Him, not another human being.  Keep me in prayers.  Beating the enemy is difficult.

[Jason_NC]

Put the same effort into your wife that you have this girl and see what a difference that makes.