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   Just a question about trying new things in the bedroom with your wife (spouse).. Myself and My Wife have done MANY things behind our closed door to spice up our sexual life. About 4 months ago, she wanted to try and do some things, that I said WOULD NEVER HAPPEN.... However, we did try and to be honest, I enjoyed her doing to me, the things, (well as close to the things we could get) that I do to her. We have done it about 3 times in 4 months and it turns us both on. My question is, is it sinful to do those things and should we stick to the same old stuff to avoid being condemned? Or is it ok for us to try new things like that within the privacy of our marriage and behind our bed? 

Quote from: bornagainman on Sat Aug 04, 2012 - 22:16:33
Just a question about trying new things in the bedroom with your wife (spouse).. Myself and My Wife have done MANY things behind our closed door to spice up our sexual life. About 4 months ago, she wanted to try and do some things, that I said WOULD NEVER HAPPEN.... However, we did try and to be honest, I enjoyed her doing to me, the things, (well as close to the things we could get) that I do to her. We have done it about 3 times in 4 months and it turns us both on. My question is, is it sinful to do those things and should we stick to the same old stuff to avoid being condemned? Or is it ok for us to try new things like that within the privacy of our marriage and behind our bed? 

No, it is not OK. You can only do what you thought you knew to do when you were 12. But, since you have now admitted to having done it, you will both burn in Hell for ever.


Well, either that or go blind.


No, wait a minute, you weren't talking about THAT were you?. Because you probably knew to do that at 12, right?


Never mind. Carry on.


Nothing to see here.

Oh I see now, You are judging people? I guess the Good Lord put you on Earth to Judge Others Ultimate Eternal Life. That is just as much a sin as two guys getting married. Just Saying.

BTW: I am not trolling. I was just asking a serious question! By answering the way you did to me, you are turning the non-believers away and turning those that aren't as spiritually strong as others away as well.

To the Moderators, I'll be leaving your board. A simple answer of "Yes it is" would have been fine by me. However I refuse to be judged in the manner that this guy has judged. And probably only because he thought and assumed I was trolling.

Good Bye and God Bless.

Quote from: bornagainman on Sat Aug 04, 2012 - 22:30:35
Oh I see now, You are judging people? I guess the Good Lord put you on Earth to Judge Others Ultimate Eternal Life. That is just as much a sin as two guys getting married. Just Saying.

BTW: I am not trolling. I was just asking a serious question! By answering the way you did to me, you are turning the non-believers away and turning those that aren't as spiritually strong as others away as well.

Umm....I was joking. Yes, I know you said you weren't. Yes, yes.


I was, and I didn't say you were trolling.


I will observe that you didn't actually say anything.

That was hilarious, HR, and it made the point perfectly.  Not a hint of anything but kindness in it.  My wife is STILL laughing!

Some people tend to take themselves FAR too seriously.

Yeah.

So what do yawl think?

Maybe he had an agenda?

Quote from: JohnDB on Sun Aug 05, 2012 - 11:02:45
Yeah.

So what do yawl think?

Maybe he had an agenda?

Actually I kind of believe the disclaimer he made as the title of his thread. But that's just me.

Quote from: HRoberson on Sat Aug 04, 2012 - 22:23:02

Quote from: bornagainman on Sat Aug 04, 2012 - 22:16:33
Just a question about trying new things in the bedroom with your wife (spouse).. Myself and My Wife have done MANY things behind our closed door to spice up our sexual life. About 4 months ago, she wanted to try and do some things, that I said WOULD NEVER HAPPEN.... However, we did try and to be honest, I enjoyed her doing to me, the things, (well as close to the things we could get) that I do to her. We have done it about 3 times in 4 months and it turns us both on. My question is, is it sinful to do those things and should we stick to the same old stuff to avoid being condemned? Or is it ok for us to try new things like that within the privacy of our marriage and behind our bed? 

No, it is not OK. You can only do what you thought you knew to do when you were 12. But, since you have now admitted to having done it, you will both burn in Hell for ever.

Well, either that or go blind.

No, wait a minute, you weren't talking about THAT were you?. Because you probably knew to do that at 12, right?

Never mind. Carry on.

Nothing to see here.

OK, let's get this straight:

A guest comes to us with (what to him is) a serious question -- and you make a joke out of it.

A brother in Christ comes to us, asking to be taken seriously -- and you make a joke out of it.

"Some people have no sense of humor!"

Yeah, how about that ...

Quote from: epiphanius on Mon Aug 06, 2012 - 09:53:30

Quote from: HRoberson on Sat Aug 04, 2012 - 22:23:02

Quote from: bornagainman on Sat Aug 04, 2012 - 22:16:33
Just a question about trying new things in the bedroom with your wife (spouse).. Myself and My Wife have done MANY things behind our closed door to spice up our sexual life. About 4 months ago, she wanted to try and do some things, that I said WOULD NEVER HAPPEN.... However, we did try and to be honest, I enjoyed her doing to me, the things, (well as close to the things we could get) that I do to her. We have done it about 3 times in 4 months and it turns us both on. My question is, is it sinful to do those things and should we stick to the same old stuff to avoid being condemned? Or is it ok for us to try new things like that within the privacy of our marriage and behind our bed? 

No, it is not OK. You can only do what you thought you knew to do when you were 12. But, since you have now admitted to having done it, you will both burn in Hell for ever.

Well, either that or go blind.

No, wait a minute, you weren't talking about THAT were you?. Because you probably knew to do that at 12, right?

Never mind. Carry on.

Nothing to see here.

OK, let's get this straight:

A guest comes to us with (what to him is) a serious question -- and you make a joke out of it.

A brother in Christ comes to us, asking to be taken seriously -- and you make a joke out of it.

"Some people have no sense of humor!"

Yeah, how about that ...

Oh, right.  I might have been persuaded by such an blatently obvious attempt at BS when I was 10.  But, I'm older now.

Quote from: JohnDB on Sun Aug 05, 2012 - 11:02:45
So what do yawl think?

Maybe he had an agenda?

No, I think he has been laboring under such a heavy weight of false guilt that any attempt at humor just really added to it and ran him off.

Quote from: DaveW on Mon Aug 06, 2012 - 10:37:10
I think he has been laboring under such a heavy weight of false guilt that any attempt at humor just really added to it and ran him off.

Dave,

My sentiments exactly!  We might actually be mistaken about this, but I think an old saying of Mother Teresa's is applicable here: "I would rather be wrong 100 times in kindness and charity, than be right once in harshness and cruelty."

I don't know if he was serious or not, and I don't care.


If he wants to know something, he needs to tell us what it is he wants to know, instead of making us guess.

To answer the OP's question, I believe you can do anything in the privacy of your bedroom with your wife provided it doesn't involve another party. 

QuoteIf he wants to know something, he needs to tell us what it is he wants to know, instead of making us guess.

QuoteMy question is, is it sinful to do those things and should we stick to the same old stuff to avoid being condemned? Or is it ok for us to try new things like that within the privacy of our marriage and behind our bed?

What? Not obvious enough for you?

And some people wonder why Christians get branded as Hypocrites.

Quote from: paul1965 on Thu Nov 22, 2012 - 04:55:31

QuoteIf he wants to know something, he needs to tell us what it is he wants to know, instead of making us guess.

QuoteMy question is, is it sinful to do those things and should we stick to the same old stuff to avoid being condemned? Or is it ok for us to try new things like that within the privacy of our marriage and behind our bed?

What? Not obvious enough for you?

And some people wonder why Christians get branded as Hypocrites.

What are "those things?" Jumping from the dresser? Dressing in Batman outfits? Sucking toes? No, the question wasn't obvious enough for me.


If we had said, "Oh, don't worry about it; it's fine." What would we have been approving? Perhaps you could tell us what the behaviors were that he was embarrassed about.

As a guy who provides sex therapy, I can imagine all sorts of behaviors someone might declare THAT WOULD NEVER HAPPEN. For some people, that line falls at a relatively tame point on the sexual behavior continuum; for others well, let's just say they can be considerably less tame.

Some Christians are often overly judgmental when they don't adequately reflect.

QuotePerhaps you could tell us what the behaviors were that he was embarrassed about.

Obviously i cant because we never had the chance for clarification, due to the ridicule the guy received.

QuoteAs a guy who provides sex therapy

Really, so in your therapy sessions with clients do you use the RE&S technique a lot?

I love it.  Some of you are sitting here concerned that this shy, reserved guy's feelings got hurt.  Really?  We ARE talking about a guy that busted into a forum of strangers, cold, and suggested he hands his wife a coke bottle, right?

How old are you guys?

Quote from: paul1965 on Sat Dec 01, 2012 - 16:29:39

QuotePerhaps you could tell us what the behaviors were that he was embarrassed about.

Obviously i cant because we never had the chance for clarification, due to the ridicule the guy received.

QuoteAs a guy who provides sex therapy

Really, so in your therapy sessions with clients do you use the RE&S technique a lot?

I thought you had suggested that he had actually asked a question. Could you tell us what the question was?

Yeah, after all, doesn't really matter what anyone says does it?

Mat 18:6  But whoso shall offend one of these little ones which believe in me, it were better for him that a millstone were hanged about his neck, and that he were drowned in the depth of the sea.
Mat 18:7  Woe unto the world because of offences! for it must needs be that offences come; but woe to that man by whom the offence cometh!

Quote from: bornagainman on Sat Aug 04, 2012 - 22:16:33
I enjoyed her doing to me, the things, (well as close to the things we could get) that I do to her.

Buried in there, but he was actually quite explicit.  I'd suggest a careful reading to those who missed the point as to which activities he meant.