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I posted on her back in September http://www.gracecentered.com/christian_forums/christian-marriage-forum/needing-help-83486/

But thing just keep changing, I'm am at my breaking point. 

We had her family with us for Christmas, and it was a good time, she had a few lows but for the most part it went well. 
Then on Sunday, we decided to forgo church and celebrate our anniversary (witch was the next day) since we had grandparents as free babysitters. We had a good time, went shopping, lunch and an early movie, I gave her a little piece of Jewelry, as a anniversary gift and she liked it and all was well, we got home from the move and the breakdown happened, she was mad that her parents were going on a trip and she has nothing but two kids take care of and nothing to look forward too, she then went to the bedroom and refused to talk to anyone. 

Monday morning her mother convinced her that she needed to get back to the Dr and work on the depression meds, she reluctantly went, and the doc gave her a script for Xanax, and a referral to a psychiatrist, our Dr tried to scheduled the appt. for her but as luck would have it the psychiatrist office was closed, but anyway.
I had hidden an anniversary card where I new she would find it, made her happy, all was good, I also had another small gift, a collectible that i get her one  of a series every year. I got home from work and set her gift on the counter, she comes out sees it, and says there too much crap on the counter and walks off, I don't get as much as Happy Anniversary,  that evening I put the kids to bed, and came out to the living room, she said "I not giving you your stuff because it junk, don't talk to me."   I went about my evening doing the laundry, dishes and picking up toys,etc.  I went to bed about midnight (baby always needs feed at 11:30) kissed her on the forehead and went to sleep,
I got up at 4:30 with a crying toddler who needed a diaper and didn't want to go back to sleep. around 7:00  I heard her get in the shower so I went in to get dressed for the day and leave for work, She asked if we could start our new employee today, and I said no, I want to do it on the new tax year, then she becomes unglued at me she started mocking me and telling me how I don't support her and on and on and on.  I said I just want to do it right and not mess up anything tax wise, but if it is that important we can see if he can start today. She just got louder and louder then I said, I'm not going to sit here and be screamed at, you asked me a question and I told you my thoughts, she just kept mocking me and telling me that I was stupid and didn't know what I was talking about, so I just left for work.  Her folks were leaving today as well, as I left I told them thanks for coming and so forth and I went to work.  I called my in-laws a little while ago and asked them how things were when they left, I guess she was rude and indifferent and didn't really say anything to them.

Sorry to ramble on I just need to vent,  and need some encouragement that I'm doing the right thing. 

If a woman came here asking for advise about living with a physically and emotionally abusive, controlling, immature, manipulative man, I am sure she would be advised to leave with the children asap. She behaves like a spoilt brat to be honest, and I fear for your children and having to live with her terrible behaviour. At the very least keep detailed records of all that she does so that you have proof when you need it. 
I would also get legal advise about you and the children. Unless she is prepared to admit to her appalling behaviour, then she wont get help will she, and she will always blame you. You may need to set out conditions that you want met if the marriage isnt to end and see what she does. She is using you as a doormat, and you are enabling her behaviour.

I do realize what she is doing to me, but the kids are a huge factor, Christ has his plans for me, and I believe it is to protect the kids.  Where we live men are rarely awarded custody, without a conviction and even then they try to place kids back with the mother. I've seen i multiple times and have a buddy who, ultimately won, but was arrested for kidnapping trying to get his kids away from his meth abusing x-wife, it took several months and her finally doing hard time for him to get the kids.