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Hello brothers,

I have recently come to this conclusion: I am sexually addicted. This mainly comes from viewing sexually sinful material online, and it goes against everything I believe in- being a slave for sin, doing the devil's deeds by financially supporting porn "stars" and giving suggestive videos more "views" to continue their work, and finally causing me to stumble and stunt my growth with Christ. I am young and I realize that I am very susceptible to viewing this stuff- I realize this, and this is not an excuse for me. I am in no way trying to brag or heighten myself but I am very active and thus have higher T-levels, which I am in no way using as an excuse for my sins either. The Lord only brings unto me what I can handle. While this is all true, I feel like I am fighting a war on all fronts and I will almost always eventually cave in. Thus I have decided that I can no longer control what I can view. This must be abolished. I have already tried web filters but I have always found ways to bypass them and continue viewing sinful and suggestive material... Does anyone know of any effective and efficient methods or programs to remove my ability to view suggestive materials, and cannot be edited? I still require this PC for educational and controlled recreational use- thus I am at a standoff and require assistance. Thank you regardless for taking time out of your precious time on this earth.

How about having a friend or family member put parental controls on?

I doubt software exists that effectively screens out such things for anyone even moderately technologically competent.

Can you go without internet access for a time? A three month sabbatical would do you well if you can disconnect and not be harmed professionally (or educationally I suppose)

Otherwise what OS do you use? You can create a user account with very limited permissions in Linux or Windows (probably OSX too, but I'm not as familiar with it) and have whoever is in charge of your accountability make take the admin account.

Then when you are in private you can only log in as the limited user with whatever restrictions you need (no web browser access would be the simplest way, you could still play on-line games so long as they don't have a way to launch a browser instance) and when you need the internet you have your accountability person log you in and you use the admin account in a common area of your house only when people are around.

That would probably do it.

Thank you to both above posts. I have/will take action on both of those.

I wish you peace, prosperity, grace, and wisdom during your Good Friday and Easter weekend. Please pray for me.

Jason

Think of it this way: it doesn't exist. It's like when I go into a store, I don't even think about where or whether it sells cigarettes or not.

Otherwise, overcome intimidation of the female form--don't give it power that it doesn't have (this is the root of idolatry). Ultimately the only power an image has is what your mind gives it, so don't give it any.

Quote from: chestupeyesupprayedup on Sat Mar 28, 2015 - 17:29:23
Hello brothers,

I have recently come to this conclusion: I am sexually addicted. This mainly comes from viewing sexually sinful material online, and it goes against everything I believe in- being a slave for sin, doing the devil's deeds by financially supporting porn "stars" and giving suggestive videos more "views" to continue their work, and finally causing me to stumble and stunt my growth with Christ. I am young and I realize that I am very susceptible to viewing this stuff- I realize this, and this is not an excuse for me. I am in no way trying to brag or heighten myself but I am very active and thus have higher T-levels, which I am in no way using as an excuse for my sins either. The Lord only brings unto me what I can handle. While this is all true, I feel like I am fighting a war on all fronts and I will almost always eventually cave in. Thus I have decided that I can no longer control what I can view. This must be abolished. I have already tried web filters but I have always found ways to bypass them and continue viewing sinful and suggestive material... Does anyone know of any effective and efficient methods or programs to remove my ability to view suggestive materials, and cannot be edited? I still require this PC for educational and controlled recreational use- thus I am at a standoff and require assistance. Thank you regardless for taking time out of your precious time on this earth.

If you don't live by yourself, move your PC to the living room

Quote from: chestupeyesupprayedup on Sat Mar 28, 2015 - 17:29:23I have recently come to this conclusion: I am sexually addicted.

It's a matter of FAITH.  Do you truly believe the word of God?  If yes, then do you want to please God, for whom he is and what he has done for you~if Yes...then you CAN rule your spirit, and do it.  Pray that God would not lead you into temptation but that he will deliver you from temptation and BE SINCERE in you request. The bottom line in every area of one's life the key for success is RULING ONE'S SPIRIT.......in eating, drinking, finances, on and on we could go. Ruling one's spirit takes discipline, and consistence, and in this one particular area~FAITH. Strong men (those that always rule their spirits) can do great things, those men that have no rule over their spirits are a pitiful example of a real man. Proverbs has much to say on this critical subject of one ruling their spirit...Consider the words of a good friend of mine (Jonathan Crosby) who wrote:

Quote Proverbs 25:28~He that hath no rule over his own spirit is like a city that is broken down, and without walls.

Your success depends on ruling your spirit. Great men rule their spirits. They resist temptations to react or overreact. They restrain their emotions and manage them for good.

How safe are you from trouble? If you do not rule your spirit, you are vulnerable to say or do things that could cost you dearly. You may already be damaged by such actions.

Your spirit is your inner self, which controls your actions. When you do not rule your spirit, you are exposed and vulnerable to all sorts of folly and trouble. Like a defenseless city without walls in former times of marauding armies, so is the man who does not rule his own spirit and diligently keep it in the way of virtue, truth, and wisdom.

Your spirit includes your affections, appetites, and passions. A wise and noble man rules his spirit by his conscience and mind. He locks it down with chains of self-denial to keep ambition, anger, lust, pride, or revenge from breaking forth. He guides it by a mental commitment to hold fast honor, humility, righteousness, and virtue. He rules his thoughts, his desires, his inclinations, his resentments, and keeps them all in disciplined order.

A fool lets his spirit control his actions. He does not resist impulses from his spirit; he lets his spirit direct him; he forfeits the fight for character and godliness. He cannot do what he should; he cannot stop doing what he should not. Such men are often angry, generally foolish, often depressed, or always procrastinating, among other faults and sins. They never grow up, for they are controlled by childish passions of a depraved heart.

In Solomon's time, a city depended on strong fortifications and gates, with great walls surrounding it, to repel incursions by ravaging bands of guerillas or foreign armies. If the bulwarks, gates, or towers were broken down and the walls taken away, a city was totally exposed to the incursions of any enemy that wished to plunder, pillage, or conquer it. If a city did not invest sufficiently in these means of protection, it could easily be captured.

A man without rule of his spirit is exposed and vulnerable like a defenseless city. His spirit is ready to sin with very little provocation, and he cannot marshal its power for any real good. He is helplessly, hopelessly, perpetually at the mercy of his enemies – foolishness, lust, and sin – which show no quarter, but regularly ravage his life. But the man who rules his spirit is greater than a man taking a city single-handedly (Pr 16:32).

Dear reader, what tempts your spirit? Are you quick to anger, a sure mark of a fool? Must you talk incessantly, another mark of a fool? Regarding money, are you an impulsive spender? Or a hoarding miser? Do you justify imprudent haste as optimism? Or do you call melancholy funks self-reflection? Which spirit do you have? Do you rule it? To the bulwarks! Raise the towers! Close the gates! Build the walls! Rule your spirit!

Do you talk too much? Or are you depressed and silent? Do you make financial choices impulsively? Do you criticize everyone? Do you jest and joke often? Does complaining come easily? Do you eat more than you should? Do you fail to read and pray daily? Do you let being discouraged destroy you? Does fear keep you from your duties?

Do you disrespect authority, especially civil rulers? Are you known for withdrawing and avoiding your family or friends? Do you forgive easily, or is it hard? Can you stop being an overbearing mother by making suggestions for everything your married child does? Do you mock rich men, because you think you know more than them (Eccl 10:20)?

Your life will be plundered and wasted, unless you take control and raise a defense. You will never amount to much. You will be a castaway, for an unruly spirit does not produce good things for God or man. You will plunge into sins of commission and omission. To the bulwarks! Raise the towers! Close the gates! Build the walls! Rule your spirit!

The greatest battle you will ever fight is the one against your own spirit. Your worst enemy is the depraved and selfish man inside you. It causes the most damage and keeps you from success in life. The most shameful loss is to live and die the victim of your own unruly spirit. And the most noble and rewarding victory is the one over your own spirit.

King Saul did not rule his jealous spirit, which even tried to kill his own son (I Sam 20:27-34). David did not bridle his lustful spirit, which boldly led him to adultery and murder (II Sam 11:1-27). And Samson, the strongest man ever, was helpless before his unruled passion for beautiful Delilah (Judges 16:4-21). Dear reader, do not let these heinous crimes make you confident in your life, for many lesser sins can also ruin a life.

Identify your spirit weaknesses – every man has them. What sins tempt you most? What causes you to fall quickest into folly? Confess your faults to the Lord. Confess to your family or friends. Ask them to tell you when they see a breach in a wall. Take charge of your spirit, and crush whatever folly it seeks, and do whatever wisdom it avoids. Now!

At the first sign of a bulwark or tower crumbling, pray for the mighty strength of your Prince Jesus. Do not trust your own strength; you need His. You cannot relax, for it will take control unless you rule it. By the grace of the Lord Jesus Christ you can rule it. Why wait one minute longer? Go to Him now! Raise the walls of a well-ruled and holy city!

Teach your children self-discipline, called temperance in the Bible. This will do them more good before God and men than academic training. This will make them as great as a man singlehandedly taking a city (Pr 16:32). You can start when they are very young by slowly denying them small things they want. The present world sees no need for it, since they believe in instant gratification with food, purchases, sex, speech, anger, sleep, etc.

Jesus Christ ruled His spirit and submitted to God's will, in spite of being very amazed and intimidated by His coming crucifixion (Mark 14:33). Though tempted by the devil at various times, He never considered the devil's suggestions (Matt 4:1-11). But not only that, He will provide grace and strength for those who ask (II Cor 12:9-10; Phil 4:13).

Go directly to God with this. Be open with God, show Him your true self and if you are genuine that you desire to be rid of this as well as other sinful vices and ask Him to take this away, He will do it.  Relying on yourself or other humans will only help temporarily if at all.
Show God what you are and what you do with an open heart and if your heart is genuine, that is if you really want sinful desires removed from you, He will do it.

Whatever you ask in my name, this I will do, that the Father may be glorified in the Son.
If you ask me anything in my name, I will do it.  -Jhn. 14:13,14

He did it for me, He will do it for you. He is the only way.

For God shows no partiality.   -Rom. 2:11

You can always keyword search for websites that offer free downloads: pornography blocker software - Google link

Barring that close the gateway that leads to destruction. In other words, sell your computer. This way temptation isn't at reach of a keyboard.

Quote from: chestupeyesupprayedup on Sat Mar 28, 2015 - 17:29:23
Hello brothers,

I have recently come to this conclusion: I am sexually addicted. This mainly comes from viewing sexually sinful material online, and it goes against everything I believe in- being a slave for sin, doing the devil's deeds by financially supporting porn "stars" and giving suggestive videos more "views" to continue their work, and finally causing me to stumble and stunt my growth with Christ. I am young and I realize that I am very susceptible to viewing this stuff- I realize this, and this is not an excuse for me. I am in no way trying to brag or heighten myself but I am very active and thus have higher T-levels, which I am in no way using as an excuse for my sins either. The Lord only brings unto me what I can handle. While this is all true, I feel like I am fighting a war on all fronts and I will almost always eventually cave in. Thus I have decided that I can no longer control what I can view. This must be abolished. I have already tried web filters but I have always found ways to bypass them and continue viewing sinful and suggestive material... Does anyone know of any effective and efficient methods or programs to remove my ability to view suggestive materials, and cannot be edited? I still require this PC for educational and controlled recreational use- thus I am at a standoff and require assistance. Thank you regardless for taking time out of your precious time on this earth.

Any methods to abolish viewing sexually sinful material online?

Well the only foolproof way till we are perfected when Christ comes...

Matthew 5:29–30 (NIV84)
29If your right eye causes you to sin, gouge it out and throw it away. It is better for you to lose one part of your body than for your whole body to be thrown into hell.
30And if your right hand causes you to sin, cut it off and throw it away. It is better for you to lose one part of your body than for your whole body to go into hell.

But don' do dat!

It's Old Testament. We're in the New Testament now.

Do what the rest of us do online, on the street, in a magazine, on a billboard, in a book, on tv or a movie, sitting next to you in school or at work...

1 John 1:9-2:5

Keep short accounts. It's the entire world we live in, not just the internet.

A few suggestions:

1. Install accountability software.  I use covenant eyes. 

2. This is good for computers, but limited when it comes to smart phones. If you have a smart phone seriously consider getting a "dumb phone" until you have had some success in this area.

3. Keep a journal of the times you look at porn or are tempted to.  What is going on.  How were you feeling before.  How did you feel after.  See if you can spot common themes when the temptation first strikes and see if you can deal with these "triggers".  Remember how you feel after next time you are tempted.  Remember the guilt and remorse you feel.

4. "Just 'not looking at porn'" will not work.  You need to create new habits to replace that one.  Instead of looking at porn, read your bible.  Pray.  Read something spiritually nourishing.  Get on a daily bible reading plan to read the bible in a year.  Do this reading at the time you most often stumble if there is such a time.  (Skip song of Solomon for now.)

5. Don't try to beat this alone.  Get a friend you can talk to, confess to, or call when you are tempted, even if it's at 3am.

6. If all else fails, get biblical counseling.

Use the off switch if you can't stop.

Even for just a few days.

When you just can't stand being without the other things you love to do online that are kosher, turn the computer on and remind yourself that it gets turned off if you stray into anything that gets you turned on.

And increase the off time each time.

Our minds and our bodies are a lot more programmable than we think when it's whining at us over whatever.

God bless!

  is a good resource in addition to covenant eyes.
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