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Hi
I'm a 17 year old guy.  I became a Christian 3 years ago.  (devout Calvinist Anglican) I enjoy studying theology, politics, and philosophy independently. I am very conservative theologically.  Students at my all-male Catholic high school view me as a very serious guy( they think I'm an intellectual snob) I abhor vulgarity of any kind.  People who know me well say I'm very mature for my age. I try to be as civil and kind as I can be. I'd like to meet a girl in undergrad, get married, attend law school, become a lawyer, and have a good family.  I am NOT a fan of recreational dating. I'd like to practice Biblical Courtship. I had some questions.
1. I am Middle Eastern ethnically.( although I view myself as an American. I'm very Nationalist) Does race matter to conservative Christian families today? Would my race be an issue?
2. As far as what I'm looking for, I'd want to marry a girl who is Godly, modest,  smart, sweet, and caring. Looks are somewhat important, but personality/character  is a lot more important for me. I dislike the Feminist type. I want a wife who will be kind to me and treat me like a man. I'd only marry a woman who agreed to be a homemaker. Are there Christian girls like this today?( or have they all become Femenists)

Quote from: KDKhan on Fri Jan 22, 2016 - 02:36:21
Hi
I'm a 17 year old guy.  I became a Christian 3 years ago.  (devout Calvinist Anglican) I enjoy studying theology, politics, and philosophy independently. I am very conservative theologically.  Students at my all-male Catholic high school view me as a very serious guy( they think I'm an intellectual snob) I abhor vulgarity of any kind.  People who know me well say I'm very mature for my age. I try to be as civil and kind as I can be. I'd like to meet a girl in undergrad, get married, attend law school, become a lawyer, and have a good family.  I am NOT a fan of recreational dating. I'd like to practice Biblical Courtship. I had some questions.
1. I am Middle Eastern ethnically.( although I view myself as an American. I'm very Nationalist) Does race matter to conservative Christian families today? Would my race be an issue?
2. As far as what I'm looking for, I'd want to marry a girl who is Godly, modest,  smart, sweet, and caring. Looks are somewhat important, but personality/character  is a lot more important for me. I dislike the Feminist type. I want a wife who will be kind to me and treat me like a man. I'd only marry a woman who agreed to be a homemaker. Are there Christian girls like this today?( or have they all become Femenists)

Hahaha...you got your whole life worked out haven't you?
I had the same thing when I was your age.
Looking back however I realize nothing much of what I planned my life was supposed to be worked out.
Yet I am here, happy and all.

I would say...relax! You either run into the right woman sometime or you don't.
Chances are that when you do, you will be exactly the way she wants you to be.

Quote from: AVZ on Fri Jan 22, 2016 - 02:42:47

Quote from: KDKhan on Fri Jan 22, 2016 - 02:36:21
Hi
I'm a 17 year old guy.  I became a Christian 3 years ago.  (devout Calvinist Anglican) I enjoy studying theology, politics, and philosophy independently. I am very conservative theologically.  Students at my all-male Catholic high school view me as a very serious guy( they think I'm an intellectual snob) I abhor vulgarity of any kind.  People who know me well say I'm very mature for my age. I try to be as civil and kind as I can be. I'd like to meet a girl in undergrad, get married, attend law school, become a lawyer, and have a good family.  I am NOT a fan of recreational dating. I'd like to practice Biblical Courtship. I had some questions.
1. I am Middle Eastern ethnically.( although I view myself as an American. I'm very Nationalist) Does race matter to conservative Christian families today? Would my race be an issue?
2. As far as what I'm looking for, I'd want to marry a girl who is Godly, modest,  smart, sweet, and caring. Looks are somewhat important, but personality/character  is a lot more important for me. I dislike the Feminist type. I want a wife who will be kind to me and treat me like a man. I'd only marry a woman who agreed to be a homemaker. Are there Christian girls like this today?( or have they all become Femenists)

Hahaha...you got your whole life worked out haven't you?
I had the same thing when I was your age.
Looking back however I realize nothing much of what I planned my life was supposed to be worked out.
Yet I am here, happy and all.

I would say...relax! You either run into the right woman sometime or you don't.
Chances are that when you do, you will be exactly the way she wants you to be.

I agree with this, relax and let God lead you in your life and in your hopes for a wife. Enjoy your life now, relax a bis , make friends, and leave the future planning to Him. He may well have a lady for you who isnt anything like what you think you need/want, (maybe she wants to be a lawyer as well), but God will have his reasons for what He does and He always has your ultimate best interests at heart. You cant plan or decide when you will meet someone, it may be in a  few years, it may be far longer. One step at a time.

BTW a woman who works doesn't make her a feminist. In the UK where I live nearly all young married women have to work as housing is so terribly expensive..We wouldnt survive without women who work outside the home.
As for the race thing, everyone is different, some families are and some arent. It would be nice to think that all Christian families arent racist, but in my experience that isnt the case especially in some parts of the USA.   

Find me a woman who is a doctor and makes big bank and I will stay at home.