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While I was out yesterday,I met a nice lady who was already selling Valentines Day gift baskets.She asked me and my mom would I like to buy a gift basket.I was not interested in buying one because I know that I would not have a Valentines again this year and to be honest Valentines Day sort of depresses me with all those happy couples getting their balloons,candy,stuffed animals,whatever else they are selling for that special someone.I know it's kind of early in the month of January asking this question but does anybody dread or love Valentines Day?How do you deal with it?Does that day makes you happy or feeling lonely that you wish you had somebody to spend it with.

QuoteOh Please will you give it a rest,By Starla

Hey Stop that kissing before I will call the kissing police

[Edited to fix spelling error in title]

I do not enjoy Valentine's Day or any other time that celebrates couples. They mean nothing to me. I am twice divorced and have no intention of getting married again. Finding a Christian woman with whom I'm compatible is very unlikely. I'm not an easy person to tolerate, and I'm a rather selfish person in that I like everything my way. I took me two failed marriages to learn that fact.

I can't think about Valentine's Day yet, I still have Epiphany ("12th Night") to get through, and the  Mardi Gras season.

I don't always get recognized on Valentine's Day either, and I've been married over 25 years.  Here's one place I can sympathize a bit even though I'm not single.

And you know, it's not that I want a brass band and a singing dancing knight on a white horse to ride up in a limousine and hand me $1,000 worth of chocolate with a big diamond in every bonbon.  I'd just like just once a bouquet of flowers to show up at the office.

Do I have to get Bobby something on that day?

I kind of miss the little Valentines Day parties what they would give us in elementary school and everybody would get cards and candy from a lot or a few of our classmates.Oh my goodness

Quote from: starla on Sat Jan 06, 2007 - 00:44:22
I kind of miss the little Valentines Day parties what they would give us in elementary school and everybody would get cards and candy from a lot or a few of our classmates.Oh my goodness

Just a suggestion starla--but why not still do that.  Go buy a bag of school-age valentines and pass them out to all your friends--it's great fun at any age!!

 

I dred it now. my x never did anything with it, and my x bf whom I was with for two years loved to be romantic, but we broke up a year ago, and this will be the first year without anything. But then again its just another day on the calendar, right?

Quote from: KRISSY on Mon Jan 08, 2007 - 13:29:36
But then again its just another day on the calendar, right?

Yep.

I've never celebrated Valentine's Day, although i wish i could.

Quote from: unluckyinlove on Tue Jan 16, 2007 - 22:38:09
I've never celebrated Valentine's Day, although i wish i could.

Had you ever had that special boyfriend or girlfriend to give a Valentines to?

No, i don't have a girlfriend yet, but i wish i did.

Several times, if I didn't  have a boyfriend, I'd spend time making the day or eve be special for a male friend. Sometimes, when I didn't have a boyfriend and any of my friends who didn't, I'd have them come over and have a special day or evening planned. Valentine's Day isn't just for lovers. To me, it's for people you love and appreciate. My ex-husband gave me the best Valentine ever 17 years ago this year- HE LEFT!!! Last year, I invited 3 of my married friends and 4 unmarriable (hee hee) women from my Bible study over for a girls' night out the Saturday before Valentine's Day. Hmmm, since it was just for girls and our Bible Study teacher (a guy) wasn't going to be there, the only one's who came were my friends. We had great fun!! We watched girlie movies, gave ourselves facials, manicures and pedicures and everything I fixed was chocolate. We really had fun. I wanted so bad to tell the women from my Bible study group how much fun we had, but I didn't.

Quote from: msbradley on Tue Jan 23, 2007 - 00:55:46
Several times, if I didn't  have a boyfriend, I'd spend time making the day or eve be special for a male friend. Sometimes, when I didn't have a boyfriend and any of my friends who didn't, I'd have them come over and have a special day or evening planned. Valentine's Day isn't just for lovers. To me, it's for people you love and appreciate. My ex-husband gave me the best Valentine ever 17 years ago this year- HE LEFT!!! Last year, I invited 3 of my married friends and 4 unmarriable (hee hee) women from my Bible study over for a girls' night out the Saturday before Valentine's Day. Hmmm, since it was just for girls and our Bible Study teacher (a guy) wasn't going to be there, the only one's who came were my friends. We had great fun!! We watched girlie movies, gave ourselves facials, manicures and pedicures and everything I fixed was chocolate. We really had fun. I wanted so bad to tell the women from my Bible study group how much fun we had, but I didn't.

That's sounds like fun,Why did'nt you tell them?

Quote from: msbradley on Tue Jan 23, 2007 - 00:55:46
Several times, if I didn't  have a boyfriend, I'd spend time making the day or eve be special for a male friend. Sometimes, when I didn't have a boyfriend and any of my friends who didn't, I'd have them come over and have a special day or evening planned. Valentine's Day isn't just for lovers. To me, it's for people you love and appreciate. My ex-husband gave me the best Valentine ever 17 years ago this year- HE LEFT!!! Last year, I invited 3 of my married friends and 4 unmarriable (hee hee) women from my Bible study over for a girls' night out the Saturday before Valentine's Day. Hmmm, since it was just for girls and our Bible Study teacher (a guy) wasn't going to be there, the only one's who came were my friends. We had great fun!! We watched girlie movies, gave ourselves facials, manicures and pedicures and everything I fixed was chocolate. We really had fun. I wanted so bad to tell the women from my Bible study group how much fun we had, but I didn't.

You should have.

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(I'm still stewing some thoughts around about special observance of Valentine's Day here on the GCM boards.  Y'all keep that in mind.)
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I didn't tell them because I wouldn't have been being nice about it. They would have been at my house in a heartbeat if the male Bible teacher would have been there. But since I sent them Valentine's cards saying it was just for the girls, none of them showed up, nor called to say they weren't coming. But it was really nice having just 4 of us.

Uuhm, i kinda hate valentines day to 
Alteast this year, just broke up with my girlfriend, and now i have to watch how all my friends are tongkissing a girl and stuff. It makes me kinda sad.

Quote from: msbradley on Tue Jan 23, 2007 - 18:27:18
I didn't tell them because I wouldn't have been being nice about it. They would have been at my house in a heartbeat if the male Bible teacher would have been there. But since I sent them Valentine's cards saying it was just for the girls, none of them showed up, nor called to say they weren't coming. But it was really nice having just 4 of us.

At least you invited them, that's what counts.

What? Are you shocked I did? This was an honest attempt to get them to see there was more to us than our Bible teacher!! I was wanting to have something like that each month for them.

Quote from: msbradley on Wed Jan 24, 2007 - 22:07:06
What? Are you shocked I did? This was an honest attempt to get them to see there was more to us than our Bible teacher!! I was wanting to have something like that each month for them.

I don't remember that weekend too well, I was in Stilwell interviewing for a job.  However, I do remember you telling me that they all refused your invitation.  You could have done like Jesus and gone out and invited the poor, the lame, and the outcast to come to your party!

How do you know my friends who did come didn't fit those you described?

THEY DON'T!!! (I have one friend that pops in here to read, but she won't commit to this place, yet.) Hi!!

And they didn't "refuse" my invitation. They "ignored" it.

A pox on their house then.

I don't get my wife anything for Valentine's day anymore.  I am the gift that keeps on giving.

I believe you on the "keeps on giving". It's a question of whether she really appreciates your steadfastness or if she'd like you being a little "less" you.
I bet you're a handful. Your wife must be extraordinary!!

Quote from: msbradley on Wed Jan 24, 2007 - 22:33:42
I believe you on the "keeps on giving". It's a question of whether she really appreciates your steadfastness or if she'd like you being a little "less" you.
I bet you're a handful. Your wife must be extraordinary!!

Oh it's the other way around.  Gary the merciful they call me.  Gary Full of Grace is the other thing they call me.  What a great husband, they say.

Just curious...Who's "they". The "they" that I've always heard seems to have knowledge and opinions for everything or "they" as in your more-than-one wife?

Quote from: Gary on Wed Jan 24, 2007 - 22:36:09

Quote from: msbradley on Wed Jan 24, 2007 - 22:33:42
I believe you on the "keeps on giving". It's a question of whether she really appreciates your steadfastness or if she'd like you being a little "less" you.
I bet you're a handful. Your wife must be extraordinary!!

Oh it's the other way around.  Gary the merciful they call me.  Gary Full of Grace is the other thing they call me.  What a great husband, they say.

Smiles?  Do you agree with what Gary is posting here?

That's right!! I forgot that's who that is!!
Thanks, Spurly. I do remember her posting something that made it sound like she was fond of him.
But, now that I think about it, how do we really know that "smiles" is really "smiles"?

Quote from: spurly on Wed Jan 24, 2007 - 22:43:26

Quote from: Gary on Wed Jan 24, 2007 - 22:36:09

Quote from: msbradley on Wed Jan 24, 2007 - 22:33:42
I believe you on the "keeps on giving". It's a question of whether she really appreciates your steadfastness or if she'd like you being a little "less" you.
I bet you're a handful. Your wife must be extraordinary!!

Oh it's the other way around.  Gary the merciful they call me.  Gary Full of Grace is the other thing they call me.  What a great husband, they say.

Smiles?  Do you agree with what Gary is posting here?

Yes

The "yes" was not posted by me....but by the ever impressive "Gary"

But on another note, He really is great. But I dofeel some of the definition by his terms are a bit different on my end