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Cool.

I was single once.  Back in the Stone Age.  I would like to hear what goes on in their heads and hearts these days.

Is it a sign of the general lack of respect for us that's out there that the word "singles" isn't capitalized in the board title?   

I'm just kidding; I'm just kidding! 

Should we start calling you Unhitched-Americans, Single-Americans, Unyoked-Americans, or Noncovenantal-Americans?

Independent-Americans.

As opposed to Interdependent-Americans?

Yup.

Matrimonally Challenged, perhaps?  Nah....that presumes that everyone is supposed to be married.

Yes, I think Independent-Americans works well.  So when do we vote and who gets to send out the official "MEMO" to the rest of the world?

At least you don't have to worry about whether to put Mr. or Mrs. on the address line...

Hmmm, I think I just might like this. How nice this will be to get others opinions and feelings who are in the same ocean, just different boats!

I just posted something somewhere, (I'm new and everytime I open a door, I can;t figure out where I was before that one!) where I was addressing EruditeJoy and Spurly on the subject of singleness. I see EruditeJoy found this place. I pray we help lift each other here. Bless and be blessed. 

Smart Americans?

Quote from: msbradley on Sat Aug 05, 2006 - 11:59:47
Hmmm, I think I just might like this. How nice this will be to get others opinions and feelings who are in the same ocean, just different boats!

I just posted something somewhere, (I'm new and everytime I open a door, I can;t figure out where I was before that one!) where I was addressing EruditeJoy and Spurly on the subject of singleness. I see EruditeJoy found this place. I pray we help lift each other here. Bless and be blessed. 

if you loose something you posted, u can go to profile and resent post from this person, obviously you will be looking for your own post.
I am cool with the Indi-American kinda reather it be - Former Amirican, forward all mail to 777  Heaven lane care of Jesus  -though.

To the person who said they would like to know what goes on in our hearts and heads; its probably the same as what went on in yours when you were single: "I would love to get married and be out of this lonely situation, but I must not panic, but I am getting old, but I know I will find someone, but suppose I don't, but I know I will, yeah but just suppose I turn 40 and have never married, but how many people turn 40 unmarried?, but many seem to, etc etc."

By the way this may come as a massive shock to you guys but there are singles in the world who are not American!!

Quote from: Alistair on Wed Mar 19, 2008 - 14:56:37
To the person who said they would like to know what goes on in our hearts and heads; its probably the same as what went on in yours when you were single

As a single....what I think about is.....the remote is ALL MINE! 

Do you have a forum for widows/widowers

Not sure if you all know this or not, but for the first time in our nation's history there are more single 20-somethings than married...

It makes sense, given that we live in an ever-increasingly isolated and self-interested culture.

Quote from: janine on Mon Jul 24, 2006 - 22:19:39
At least you don't have to worry about whether to put Mr. or Mrs. on the address line...

I'll always be putting Mr. on the address line.  I hope when I get married that I never get confused with that one!  LOL, just thought I had to take a jab 

what goes on in my single mind.....
Will I ever find Mr right?? When will I get married I really want to have kids and not be chasing after them with a cane... All I really want is to be a stay at home mom how in the world do I persue that when I'm not married?? Do I go to school even though theres nothing Id rather do that be a stay at home mom and wife? .... Whats next in life??

Quote from: nikki on Tue Jul 15, 2008 - 17:16:13
what goes on in my single mind.....
Will I ever find Mr right?? When will I get married I really want to have kids and not be chasing after them with a cane... All I really want is to be a stay at home mom how in the world do I persue that when I'm not married?? Do I go to school even though theres nothing Id rather do that be a stay at home mom and wife? .... Whats next in life??

Keep going to school.  Someday your own kids will grow up.  You might want to be a teacher, or something else that deals with kids, and then that degree might just come in handy.

FORNICATION: WHAT IS IT? WHEN IS IT COMMITTED?

1Corinthians 6:18; 1Corinthians 7:1-2;

Fornication is the incontinence or lewdness of unmarried persons, male or female. Occasionally, it means unchastity. Hebrews 13:4; It is a sexual intercourse a person and a unmarried person – 1Corinthians 5:1

Up to this day, this truth is well understood in the Middle East, Greece , Turkey , Syrians Christian living in Iraq , Palestine . These countries have upheld God's word that women should be virgins up to the day of their marriage, there must be proof that they are virgins, and if they are not, they can be PUT AWY right then, the same night.

Now here is how it is done based on God's word: We read in the Bible about the token of virginity. The day of the marriage, the parents of the girl give some kind of towel or cloth, and after her virginity is broken, the blood will be wiped on that cloth, and that cloth is given back to the parents of the girl to keep as a PROOF that their daughter was a virgin when she married. As soon as they get the bloody cloth, the parents proudly dance before the guests with joy that their daughter was a virgin. If she was not a virgin, sometimes the father & brothers kill the girl right there. But if they do not kill her, the bridegroom can put her away right then, and marry someone else. Such customs are still practiced in remote villages & towns in Greece , Turkey , and the Middle East .

When Joseph saw Mary was with a child, he thought of "putting Mary away privately

DATING IN CHRISTIANITY...COULD BE DANGEROUS IN PARTNER'S SELECTION!

Read Proverbs 2:7-27; Ecclesiastes 11:9-10, 2Timothy 2:22; Colossians 3:5, Romans 12:1-12; 1John 2:15-17, 2corinthians 6:1-4, 14-18

 

Dating – The habit of letting two young folks or older folks out together to try each other. It is a custom imported from the world into the Christianity because it never happened in the Bible days. The theory of try first and get acquainted is a strange fire, "sweetheart meeting

Quote from: GloryB on Wed Mar 19, 2008 - 19:40:07

Quote from: Alistair on Wed Mar 19, 2008 - 14:56:37
To the person who said they would like to know what goes on in our hearts and heads; its probably the same as what went on in yours when you were single

As a single....what I think about is.....the remote is ALL MINE! 

what about Godly Americans

Quote from: jmg3rd on Mon Jul 17, 2006 - 09:49:51
Should we start calling you Unhitched-Americans, Single-Americans, Unyoked-Americans, or Noncovenantal-Americans?

What about singles who are not Americans? 

I understand that you want to be a stay at home mom. I think that you should continue schooling/ keep busy doing the Lord's work. He know what your desires are. Trust me, you'd rather stay the way you are until the right man find you instead of you trying to jump in because of your age. So many wish that they had waited but the biological clock was ticking so they jumped in head first and regreted it until this day. Just work on yourself and when Mr. right comes along you will be even better than you are today. Remember, don't settle for less!

Truby

QuoteGod is a God of orderliness, when a young man has established himself in a profession and began to earn enough money whereby he can feed himself and a wife, then he should start praying that the Lord will guide to God's choice for him to be a helpmate and establish a home and raise Godly seed. At that time, through prayer and waiting on God, He will surely guide him to the right one he has prepare for him to accomplish God's great plan in their life.

I love the idea and the ideal -

However, I am 51yo, been well employed for years - and still waiting... AND more important - I am not close to being alone.  It seems you have not made much of an effort to be in touch with a large number of singles - I think that will bring reality to bear on the sad state of older Christian singles....

Best,
Aner

Quote from: janine on Mon Jul 03, 2006 - 21:19:44
I was single once.  Back in the Stone Age.  I would like to hear what goes on in their heads and hearts these days.

I sm single and glad to be single. There are too many guys who are not gentlemen. I dated two of them
Faithlady

I did register. I cannot log in, though I received the e-mail confirming I was registered. I used the correct log in information, I did not check that I was under 18 (unless it was automatically checked in the form), and I am not using Firefox. There is no way to contact the site to figure out what went wrong, and the FAQs list did not answer my question, so I am contacting you.

Please help me! 

Quote from: James. on Mon Jul 17, 2006 - 09:49:51
Should we start calling you Unhitched-Americans, Single-Americans, Unyoked-Americans, or Noncovenantal-Americans?

How about Lucky Americans?

Wheter single or married God can make you a whole and secure person, secure and whole in Him. Alot of singles think only if they could find someone that they would be happy. It is based on fraud and a lie. If you are looking for a mate let God first heal you and make you a whole and happy person, then you would be of alot more benefit to someone else. I am not saying this out of a lofty position, God had to make me whole and happy through Himself. When I got married at the age of nineteen yrs. old when the greatness of just being married wore off I was very miserable in that marriage and prayed all the time for God to give me a legitimate way to get out of the marriage. Some people, including christians are looking for mates out of all the wrong motives and reasons. Hope this helps someone. God bless you!

What a great question!  What goes through my mind?  I often wonder if I will ever find someone who is right for me.  I often find women I'm initially attracted to, but after one or two dates I usually find some reason why they aren't right. 
I want a woman who is morally straight.  She doesn't have to be a Christian but I would prefer that she be chaste.  I have been celibate for some time now and I truly believe it has helped me deal with other vices and addictions to which I was once enslaved.
I want a woman who is kind and forgiving.  Not just with me, as I probably deserve any brow-beating I might recieve, but with other people.  A generosity of spirit is something I find very compelling.
I want a woman who is honest and forthright.  I have never been any good at playing romantic "games." One thing I am trying to erase from my life is hypocrisy, and so I try to avoid it wherever possible.
I want a woman who isn't hung up on appearances.  I'm no George Clooney and I'm not looking for a beauty queen, or someone who gives much credence to what other people think of her.
I want an emotionally strong woman.  I have had difficulty with women who lead with their emotions to the detriment of all reason.
So that's what goes through my mind.  I have this wish list and every year Santa brings me a rock in my stocking.

Smart Americans is a good one...being single in a way is being "smart."

Quote from: KRISSY on Thu Jan 04, 2007 - 16:54:24
Smart Americans?

LOL... You make a wonderful point!  See? Political correctness alienates people.   

Best Advice for a Single:

Date! Only When You Actually DON'T Need It

This is the most important rule before you start searching for your soul mate.

The need for another person to make you whole and content only means that you are not ready to date.

Loneliness is a spiritual disease. This is the main cause of failure in dating.
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