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Ok so if you read my other post about porn you'll have an idea where my H and I are at right now.  He's not saved (claims to be a Catholic, but doesn't practice except for the occassional Sunday mass).  We are currently separated due to his continued verbal/emotional/financial abuse towards me.  We have struggled in the past with his gambling.  It has been a couple years since he has defiantly gone out to a casino and spent money that I didn't agree to at a casino.  We have still occassionally gone together as a form of entertainment and have always kept within our means.  During our separation (which it's been about a month now) he has managed his money well.  We have agreed to share and discuss all monies coming in/out of our accounts as we have done in the past.  At first, I wanted to be able to keep some of my own money from a part time job I do for myself.  This would've been money that I would've worked extra time to earn and would not have taken away from anything that we already count on.  We talked about it and agreed not to do that since everything else is split, it wouldn't be fair.

FF to today...I'm at our house doing some work and open up our internet thinking I left it signed on from earlier under my name.  I clicked the mailbox and it was his email.  I saw an email that read Confirmation of Reservation Borgata Casino.  This is a casino in AC that we frequently went to and stayed at.  He's made a reservation to go there this Thurs (he's currently on vacation) and hasn't bothered to tell me about it or mention where he's gotten money for it.  So...he's either planning on using a credit card without my knowledge, squirrling away money (which he accused me of earlier this month), or is getting it from his mom.  The only reason I could see his mom giving him money is for an enullment he's supposed to be working on getting for his first marriage....which is several hundred dollars and she graciously offered to pay for it to help us out financially.

I am just so livid that he's doing this.  Things are financially strained with us right now as it is which is why I moved out b/c I could live with my parents rent free instead him leaving like he wanted to and me having to work more to support him leaving  .

Advice please.  I get along lovely with his mother and am contemplating calling to ask if H had changed his mind about the anullment money and she was giving that to him...or if I should just confront him outright about it.
I'm also worried if I should call and cancel our credit cards for fear he might use those (he's done that in the past...although it hasn't happened in a long time...but who knows how he'll react now!).

  Well, if he wants to go, he's going to go.  You can't stop him.  But if he is doing this sort of thing, I would try to make sure I wasn't responsible for any debts he may incur.