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Hello ::smile::I would like to put out on the table what I was dealing with in involving on of my Exes:Last year we started talking again for about a few months(me and him used to go together a long time ago.(I was 15 and he was 13) for about three months,then he broke up with me and every year  since then (1994)he kept wanting to get back together).Fast forward to 2008,we talked for a while but there was mis-communication between the two of us because he thought that I did not want to go out or see him because I kept telling him  no.Not true,I was always busy with school plus between August and September when we started talking again,I was staying in a hotel not being able to have friends over and I moved finally into my house  .About December to January He didn't call that much and he stopped returning my phone calls.In January,I confronted him and asked him where do things stand,what is the purpose of his behavior,he said he already started dating somebody else,an older woman.So since then we stopped talking.Last night I decided to test him to see if things have changed between the two of us.An older woman answered his cell phone Which I figured is still his girlfried.(I am not gonna call him again of course)What is so ironic about their dating situation  is they are already living together and they have been dating for three months,even though he said he known her for a long time.I think this is really quick for to start living together.Since living together for any couple could be a controversy, how long should a person date before making that big living together step,even though I am not for a couple to live in together.Another thing about him  is that he told a long time ago when he was really my boyfriend, that he lost his virginity at 8 years old  .Maybe because of that incident is partly to blame with how he is,don't know..I know that an ex should not get back together with an ex-but I wanted to give him a second chance,maybe in saving his soul .I think he is making a second big mistake a moving in with this lady.He has had a live-in girlfriend before.He has a six year old boy by the former live-in girlfriend. Can this guy be considered a player,misguided or has sometype of sexual addiction.He has had a lot of girlfriends but I am not sure if he has had sex with all of them.Why did the Lord let me have dreams about the two of us being together dating

Once I hear about somebody living with another person that is not their marriage partner I automatically assume that they are going to have sex or they at LEAST had it once. 

This past summer, I used to like this girl in my Youth Group.  I would run some laps around the tennis courts and listen to my iPod, thinking about her.  I also had a dream about her and I pretty much making out.  I feel deeply in love with her.  Then, I started liking her older sister around October- mid-December. 

I have learned so much from that experience.  You should steadily build a relationship and not over calculate their actions (ex. She greeted me when I walked by her!  She must be madly in love with me!).  It sounds to me as if this guy is up to no good. 

Back to the dream part.  Sometimes it is not God that puts thoughts into our minds, but our enemy, satan.  He has put dreams into your head while you were asleep and is now tempting you.  I warn you not to fall for his trick.  Do your best to stay away from this guy or at least not go out with him.  There are over 6 billion people in this world, assuming that half of them are men.  Go outside and let God help you choose one.

QuoteI feel deeply in love with her.  Then, I started liking her older sister around October- mid-December. 

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Ah love, such a special thing

Starla...  he has made choices, choices that speak volumes as to where he is and who he is. 

Marriage is something God participates in... and that is not where he is at.  Not with her, and not with you.  Let that situation go.  The baggage that comes with hanging on to that is more than you want to carry.  Move on, trust God and do right in His sight. 

You called him "Ex-boyfriend"... keep it that way and move on.

Sounds as if you would be better keeping well away from him. We can dream about anything, that doesnt mean that it was a message from God. If you are a Christian living together is wrong anyhow, and it sounds to me as if he isnt a CHristian so you shouldnt go out with him anyway.

You said the LORD gave you dreams about you and he dating?  Well, be thankful they weren't about the two of you being married.  Move along.

Some dreams that I had about him did actually come true.Like the dream about him holding and taking care of a eight month old baby boy.I had that dream about the time he started dating the older woman.Maybe God was trying to tell me he is not for me that he is for some other woman. The strangest thing about that dream is the baby boy had my eyes  but seriously the baby boy did have eyes just like mine

Well, I guess you will have to decide if you want to be married to a man who shacked up all over town with other women before you... Or NOT.

I have dreams to, It doesn't mean I am going to make life decisions on them or I'd be walking down the street in a dorito and cheese covered dress dancing toe the tune of the music to kind of Queens, swearing at people who were on the bus.

Quotemarried to a man who shacked up all over town with other women before you

" Ewe you are a nasty boy Nate, said starla,a.k.a Trina"     

GoodPoint kensington

Quote from: Howdyboyalan on Wed Mar 18, 2009 - 18:43:36

QuoteI feel deeply in love with her.  Then, I started liking her older sister around October- mid-December. 

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Ah love, such a special thing

I try to share it every now and then