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OK,
I had a revelation a couple of weeks ago regarding my marriage, and have not been able to shake it.  So I'm asking for any advice on how to deal with this.
I was raised in a truly loving home, with problems of course, but the main "jist

Ms n90:

Actually the advice of prayerful Bible based Christians in a local church can greatly help. Families need not be on their own in their experiences of life.

(Replied to your other post, too.)

Take care.

Farouk  Hmmmnnnn.  Take care.

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Quote from: walker starr on Wed Sep 30, 2009 - 14:25:20



Farouk  Hmmmnnnn.  Take care.

Quote from: farouk on Wed Sep 30, 2009 - 14:23:36
Ms n90:

Actually the advice of prayerful Bible based Christians in a local church can greatly help. Families need not be on their own in their experiences of life.

(Replied to your other post, too.)

Take care.

Thanks farouk,
I will try, I've not asked for prayer very much at our church, always felt there are other much more pressing problems that need addressed.  Have always kind of kept our distance, my husband is very much about how we appear to others.  But thank you, I will try tonight since I'm in a women's study group this time.

Ms n90:

Yes, good idea. When others have their difficulties and bring them to Biblical light - not necessarily all the personal details, but the more general principles, it can be very helpful. Fellowship in joys and difficulties is very precious.

Take care.

(Replied again to your other post also.)

Quote from: nucmed90 on Wed Sep 30, 2009 - 14:52:41

Quote from: farouk on Wed Sep 30, 2009 - 14:23:36
Ms n90:

Actually the advice of prayerful Bible based Christians in a local church can greatly help. Families need not be on their own in their experiences of life.

(Replied to your other post, too.)

Take care.

Thanks farouk,
I will try, I've not asked for prayer very much at our church, always felt there are other much more pressing problems that need addressed.  Have always kind of kept our distance, my husband is very much about how we appear to others.  But thank you, I will try tonight since I'm in a women's study group this time.

I would suggest that your family dynamic is so very different than the one growing up in part because of the number of people in the family.

Tell me if I am wrong here, but based on your initial post, you are a family of 3 at current, yes?  And you grew up with 6?

Being an only child has challenges.  Its difficult to teach an only child sharing.  A sense of self-entitlement tends to follow.

Not to let hubby off the hook, but maybe father and son both need to take up some activities that put them with peers.

Quote from: nucmed90 on Wed Sep 30, 2009 - 14:52:41

Quote from: farouk on Wed Sep 30, 2009 - 14:23:36
Ms n90:

Actually the advice of prayerful Bible based Christians in a local church can greatly help. Families need not be on their own in their experiences of life.

(Replied to your other post, too.)

Take care.

Thanks farouk,
I will try, I've not asked for prayer very much at our church, always felt there are other much more pressing problems that need addressed.  Have always kind of kept our distance, my husband is very much about how we appear to others.  But thank you, I will try tonight since I'm in a women's study group this time.

What is more important ("pressing") than the well-being of family??  There is always time for one more prayer.  You don't have to lay out every detail.  Does your husband go to church with you?  Is fear one of the reasons you don't ask for prayers?

You married a man with a lot of baggage.  Ask the advice of a qualified counselor (not all pastors are qualified to counsel)  as to how to best approach this issue.  We're just people, and we're likely to give you bad advice.  Well-intentioned, but bad, nevertheless.

Wow. It sounds like you're quite unequally yoked and your son is paying the price. My heart goes out to you.
I think that all you really can do is pray ultimatly 

If it's any help, I've found forgiving every offense as it happens has been a good revelation for me because then they don't get the same chance to build up into something big. It also can be quite eyeopening to all the different angles and real attitudes going on behind the scenes which gives you more space to guard yourself in the future.

Also, I've found forgiveness seems to be quite powerful in defusing things. And when you have to live with someone for the rest of your life, I think that defusing can be one of the biggest lifesavers we can have in our defense.

I'm sure you've heard all the rest about asking God to help you see him as God sees him and la la la. The more we pray I think the more we win in this kind of stuff overall because God is always still God and knows the answer to every situation. (And he's for us not against us.)

Hope that helps

    In your prayers its best not to complain to GOD.  Praise HIM And thank HIM as if HE has already answered your
    prayers for in truth GOD already has answered.  Thank you JESUS Amen.

There comes an age for boys in which they don't listen to their mothers so much and begin to listen very closely to their fathers.

Just a part of growing up and childhood.

But...at the same time your influence is still accepted...and filed away for another day.
Teach him to be an inspiration for good...and not evil. That in that we can serve Christ so much better. You may not see any results today in your child's behavior...

But in Provers Solomon says: Raise up a child in the way he should go and when he is old he will not depart from it.

Doesn't say anything about those middle years at all...and I know from personal experience that it is true...

Quote from: walker starr on Fri Oct 02, 2009 - 07:36:22



    In your prayers its best not to complain to GOD.  Praise HIM And thank HIM as if HE has already answered your
    prayers for in truth GOD already has answered.  Thank you JESUS Amen.

Have you read David's psalms and Lamentations?  FULL of complaints to God!

God is Big Enough to handle what we send Him.  He knows when we are not being honest with Him, as well.