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Quote from: Mike619 on Wed Sep 02, 2009 - 01:41:18
You know, to be honest I actually kinda of have a thing for Philipino girls. They're actually my favorite. But I really don't have the money to afford a trip like that, nor do I know of any churchs having missions to that area.

Really?  I've been on-again-off-again with a Filipina for a while.  Nice girl.  Nice country.  Conservative culture.  Mostly Catholic though.

Quote from: Mike619 on Wed Sep 02, 2009 - 01:41:18

Quote from: bemark on Wed Sep 02, 2009 - 01:34:56
and you might have to move  and try abroad    My brother went to America 2 times to get a wife    but ended up with a good old Kiwi girl back in New Zealand

Then there are many Philippino women etc who might be intrested    and that is not a joke

I have been over there on a mission trip       Maybe that is where your future wife might be    on the mission field

who knows     I have a friend who is in the same boat and NZ is so small

You know, to be honest I actually kinda of have a thing for Philipino girls. They're actually my favorite. But I really don't have the money to afford a trip like that, nor do I know of any churchs having missions to that area.

I can't believe how many got sucked into the troll vortex...

Quote from: kensington on Wed Sep 02, 2009 - 02:26:55
To be honest bemark... I would not wish this guy on my worst enemy.  Can you imagine what will happen the first time she (a wife) lets him down or disappoints him?  What if she is sick one day and doesn't want sex?  Or his dinner is not on the table at EXACTLY 5:00? 

Maybe God has not sent him a wife, because he is not husband material.  He wants to own something and he wants to own it NOW!

On the contrary, her feelings would matter greatly to me. My feelings of grief are only towards God, because unlike a wife, He IS able to do ANYTHING, without breaking a sweat, yet He continues to leave me drying up my in lonely depression. I would not act this same way towards my girl. In fact I want her to be more important than me. It's not the same with God because He's never there to comfort me, when He's supposed to be more capable than a wife.

 ::smile::It doesn't mean that cause we didn't get what we want on the certain time we want em, that God forgotten us... Maybe He thinks that the time isn't right yet..? Or maybe, we need to do something with ourselves first, have you tried thinking 'bout your past relationships? You're just 21, dont be in a hurry?

Quote from: Angelos on Wed Sep 02, 2009 - 09:25:10
I think "Mike" is a troll.

No.
If I were trolling, trust me, you would know it. And I would of been long banned by now.

I am here to seek out an answer to my complicated problem. But hurting people hurt people, and that is part what I deal with in my situation. A troll on the other hand, simply comes to attack for amusement of peoples reactions, and that is not why I am here.

Quote from: zotah on Wed Sep 02, 2009 - 13:09:34
It's always better to wait and learn first who your right soul mate is. Your headed for marriage right down the fast track and headed for divorce even faster. Take it from experience, your perfect for the statistic of divorce.

1. Is it better to take your time a wait for God to give you the right person (Even if that means waiting and looking for the next 5 or more years.

What makes you think I want to wait that long? Do you even realize how terrible that feels?

Quote2. Is it better to find someone now get married now and have get divorced in 5 years. Be alone and have a Hugh child support payment each month. Then see if your unhappy and alone.

That's why I want God to bring me the right person. If it is the right person, God will be blessing it and it will work out.

QuoteAfter 10 years from now you might look back and see the wisdom in this.

Maybe you can go without for that long, but that's simply too much for me.

QuoteTry pulling back and see what happens and give God a chance, You might find that your perfect soul mate is right around the corner but she's not ready yet.

I've tried giving God a chance (And by that I mean a real chance), giving Him time and dedication. He did nothing with that. I was still left waiting just as lonely, even though I was trying to ignore it and let Him handle it. After waiting for such a long time trying to trust Him for the best, I eventually could not hold in the pain anymore and I fell apart. It is no different waiting while acting Godly, than it is waiting and being angry at Him. I know from experience. When I was on fire for Christ, I felt no different inside, even when I ignored it and tried to believe He had the best for me. It simply just does not seem to work. I wait everyday hoping she is just around the corner, so I can put all this behind me and yeah even get on fire for God again. I just don't want to be alone anymore. It hurts too much.

QuoteYou'll see, hang in there. God has a great gift for you.

I hope you're right, and I really want to believe that. I just don't know what to do anymore.

Quote from: Wycliffes_Shillelagh on Wed Sep 02, 2009 - 18:42:48
on-again-off-again with a Filipina for a while.  Nice girl.  Nice country.  Conservative culture.  Mostly Catholic though.

Wanna give me her number if your off again? lol...

Quote from: Wycliffes_Shillelagh on Wed Sep 02, 2009 - 18:42:48

Quote from: Mike619 on Wed Sep 02, 2009 - 01:41:18
You know, to be honest I actually kinda of have a thing for Philipino girls. They're actually my favorite. But I really don't have the money to afford a trip like that, nor do I know of any churchs having missions to that area.

Really?  I've been on-again-off-again with a Filipina for a while.  Nice girl.  Nice country.  Conservative culture.  Mostly Catholic though.

Hahahaha.Then maybe that's one reason why it's hard for you to find your special someone then.Cause the one you want is one the other side of the world.?

You have some preferrences, maybe you should just not wait then, maybe there's a need for you to do something too.? 



Wycliffes, why not give your friend's number to him (assuming you're off with her again).Who knows, she maybe what he's waiting for

QuoteHahahaha.Then maybe that's one reason why it's hard for you to find your special someone then.Cause the one you want is one the other side of the world.?

There are plenty of philipina girls here in America. The problem is finding one that isn't already taken by someone else, and is at least 18.

WHY should God give you a Christian wife?  If you went to a man, to ask for his daughters hand in marriage, and you called him names, insulted him to his face, to his other children, trying to convince them that the man was not worth asking for his daughters hand...

Do you really expect that he would give you one of his precious daughters?

You want a wife, bemoaning it on a Christian site how God owes her to you, and how you hate him for not giving her to you...  And yet, you want one of His precious daughters that His Son was crucified beaten on the cross for? 

I don't get it.  If I was God I would not let you near one of my daughters...  I wouldn't now, and I am not even God.

Quote from: kensington on Thu Sep 03, 2009 - 03:06:16
WHY should God give you a Christian wife?  If you went to a man, to ask for his daughters hand in marriage, and you called him names, insulted him to his face, to his other children, trying to convince them that the man was not worth asking for his daughters hand...

Do you really expect that he would give you one of his precious daughters?

You want a wife, bemoaning it on a Christian site how God owes her to you, and how you hate him for not giving her to you...  And yet, you want one of His precious daughters that His Son was crucified beaten on the cross for? 

I don't get it.  If I was God I would not let you near one of my daughters...  I wouldn't now, and I am not even God.

High five on that one.

Folks, please don't feed the...

Quote from: Mike619 on Thu Sep 03, 2009 - 02:55:57

QuoteHahahaha.Then maybe that's one reason why it's hard for you to find your special someone then.Cause the one you want is one the other side of the world.?

There are plenty of philipina girls here in America. The problem is finding one that isn't already taken by someone else, and is at least 18.

Exactly! Why not make some more effort, (assuming you already did some.?), finding one that is isn't, mean, you have a preference, a filipina girl won't just come knocking to your door.If you prefer them go to the source  Philippines is kinda far though. But who knows, might be worth it.? (or maybe not.?)
Instead of questioning God, why not try questioning yourself first.Did you already exerted enough effort to find her?As ive'd said on my IM,(btw,sorry 'bout that, im new to this),maybe you already met your special someone, you're just too busy waiting & questioning God.

And btw, it's filipina not philipina. 

Mike Mike Mike...

Oh man, you have got some case of the blame game going on with God. I am around your age (20) and I can understand the stance you have taken with God. It's incredibly hard going on with life when you are living in monotony and not aspiring for anything and think you aren't one of the 'blessed ones'. However, that, my dear fellow, is where faith is so important and clearly you have very little. I know exactly what it is like to long for that connection with someone else and to share life with someone else. I went out with my ex-gf for about 6 months and I thought we were the real deal. We had an amazing connection and I loved that girl with all my heart. All of a sudden, we broke up and I found myself with depression and a longing for that connection again. Even to this day I am praying that God lets the right girl come across my path so we can meet. But, we have to know that it will all happen in his time. I know that I am not ready for a girlfriend as much as a desperately want one. Remember, all good things come to those who wait. I am extremely impatient, like you, however I know that I am following God, my father, and he will lead me through it all.

You have to be complete yourself before you can go looking for a girl and blaming God. This next part is constructive criticism for you so don't go crazy after reading this. It seems like you have a response to everything, which is probably part of the reason why God never had a chance with you from the start; you do all the talking and don't listen to him. From all your talk you are very self-righteous and you have so much bitterness and anger welled up inside. Dude, release it. It is consuming you and it's like you have tunnel-vision and can only see crap and more crap. Find something that you have a passion for and use it for His glory. I play guitar in a large church and I feel that when I worship him nothing else in life matters; all that other stuff is secondary. Get back to the basics Mike. It's not about how many people you bring to him or whatever, its about your connection with Jesus and living life for him. Living life for Jesus means loving people, not just your immediate family. Using specific scriptures (and ignoring others) to back up your point is what many other Cults are based upon. They read certain material and choose to ignore the rest of the bible. We on this site are your brothers and sisters in Christ and if you choose to ignore us its your choice. Just remember no matter what you do or what you have done you can always turn to him, ALWAYS.

You have a reply back to everything but for once realise that God loves you and in return all he wants is for you to truly love him back and have patience.

Love you bro.

Quote from: Mike619 on Mon Aug 31, 2009 - 01:34:03
Hi, I'm Mike. 21 years old, and been a born again Christian since I was in the 1st grade.

If God really loved me, then my deepest feelings, my deepest desires, they would all matter to Him. Same for you. It's funny how He can create this whole Earth, moon, stars and universe, yet He can't even do something as simple as help someone like me find a life partner or a relationship.

I have come to expose Gods deception. His love He claims for us is a lie. He died only to enslave us, because we were no use to Him as hells corspes. Think I'm wrong?

And I dare someone to try and prove me wrong. Just know that I've got an ARSENAL of scriptures to back myself up, and chances are you'll only have empty words with nothing to back them up.

21 one years old?  No life partner yet?  Dare someone to prove you wrong?  God's love He claims for us a lie?

Well, I am 50...married when I was 25; divorced when I was 47...single again.  And, I have seen it all.  I felt pain...as my 4 children cried when I left the house, not my will but my ex-wifes.  Felt pain as I saw for the first time in the drive way...the other man's truck.  Felt pain when they went on their first weekend getaway.  Suffering and pain are a part of life.  God will use suffering to draw you closer to Him.  We are to count it all joy!

Now...some will draw closer and see the LOVE of God.  Some will harden their hearts and withdraw from God.  God gives us free will...He is not a little Deity set on His ways punishing us for being bad.  We are bad...God is good.  If we are honest with ourself, we will see the sin that destroys us.  Paul says it best...when we have suffered enough in our body; we are done with sin.

In your free will...God gives you a choice; sounds like you have hardened your heart.  Mine, I have softened to the point of total surrender.  Because, without Him I am nothing at all...

Mike619 =   

Yay! I can't believe anyone was saying he deserved a good, christian woman.

The panties comment was hilarious    Made my day. thanks janine.

Quote from: Thankfulldad on Mon Sep 07, 2009 - 12:08:25

Quote from: Mike619 on Mon Aug 31, 2009 - 01:34:03

If God really loved me, then my deepest feelings, my deepest desires, they would all matter to Him. Same for you. It's funny how He can create this whole Earth, moon, stars and universe, yet He can't even do something as simple as help someone like me find a life partner or a relationship.

I have come to expose Gods deception. His love He claims for us is a lie. He died only to enslave us, because we were no use to Him as hells corspes. Think I'm wrong?

And I dare someone to try and prove me wrong. Just know that I've got an ARSENAL of scriptures to back myself up, and chances are you'll only have empty words with nothing to back them up.

21 one years old?  No life partner yet?  Dare someone to prove you wrong?  God's love He claims for us a lie?

Well, I am 50...married when I was 25; divorced when I was 47...single again.  And, I have seen it all.  I felt pain...as my 4 children cried when I left the house, not my will but my ex-wifes.  Felt pain as I saw for the first time in the drive way...the other man's truck.  Felt pain when they went on their first weekend getaway.  Suffering and pain are a part of life.  God will use suffering to draw you closer to Him.  We are to count it all joy!

Now...some will draw closer and see the LOVE of God.  Some will harden their hearts and withdraw from God.  God gives us free will...He is not a little Deity set on His ways punishing us for being bad.  We are bad...God is good.  If we are honest with ourself, we will see the sin that destroys us.  Paul says it best...when we have suffered enough in our body; we are done with sin.

In your free will...God gives you a choice; sounds like you have hardened your heart.  Mine, I have softened to the point of total surrender.  Because, without Him I am nothing at all...

This is such an empowering message. Amazing to see your love for God has even shone through even in your darkest hour. You are such an inspiration to me and for that I thank you.

God Bless you Thankfulldad.

Quote from: Thankfulldad on Mon Sep 07, 2009 - 12:08:25
21 one years old?  No life partner yet?  Dare someone to prove you wrong?  God's love He claims for us a lie?

Well, I am 50...married when I was 25; divorced when I was 47...single again.  And, I have seen it all.  I felt pain...as my 4 children cried when I left the house, not my will but my ex-wifes.  Felt pain as I saw for the first time in the drive way...the other man's truck.  Felt pain when they went on their first weekend getaway.  Suffering and pain are a part of life.  God will use suffering to draw you closer to Him.  We are to count it all joy!

Now...some will draw closer and see the LOVE of God.  Some will harden their hearts and withdraw from God.  God gives us free will...He is not a little Deity set on His ways punishing us for being bad.  We are bad...God is good.  If we are honest with ourself, we will see the sin that destroys us.  Paul says it best...when we have suffered enough in our body; we are done with sin.

In your free will...God gives you a choice; sounds like you have hardened your heart.  Mine, I have softened to the point of total surrender.  Because, without Him I am nothing at all...

Missed this post ---Thankfuldad ---you're on my "A" list now.
I know how ya feel buddy. The good, the bad, the ugly.

Don't know if this will help or not, I hope so. I was in much the same situation as you are right now. I was one of the good guys in church, part of the core of the youth group.  All the girls ever said to me was, "Whoever you marry will be so lucky" "any girl you date will be so lucky". All kinds of stuff like that. As much as I wanted to, as many great girls as I knew, I never had a girlfriend.  I prayed and begged God about it every night for years.  It was painful, I know what it's like to long so much for someone to love and not get what you long for.  The summer after my freshman year of college, I gave up.  I said, "God, no more, I'm not asking you for this anymore. You know how badly I want this and You bring it to me when and if you want it to happen." It really felt like life sucked, I didn't know when or if I would ever meet anyone.  Here's the kicker - about three months later, after I stopped obsessing about it and gave it over to God, I met the girl I married.  Neither one of us had ever dated anyone.  We had all of our firsts together: first girlfriend or boyfriend, first time holding hands, first time kissing, everything.  It sucked for a really long time and felt like God didn't care sometimes, but ended up being one of the biggest blessings of my entire life.  Neither my wife or I have any baggage, do you know how rare that is? Both of us had a lot of pain leading up to it, but when we talked about it later, everything that happened to us both in that period of time was preparing us specifically for the relationship we have now.  I was almost 20 when I met my wife.  I know that sometimes it seems like God is far away and that he doesn't care, but I assure you, Romans 8:28 is true, no matter how distant it feels.
I promise you God hasn't forgotten you.
Here's what else I know - it's okay to be angry at God, trust me, He's big enough to take it.  But here's the catch - don't forget that He is God, not you.

God is not going to give you one of his precious daughters for you to turn your rage, anger, and selfcenteredness upon. 

Read the writings of Paul!

Jesus was not married. 

You are 21, I am 45 and have been married more than one time.  If you think being single and alone is bad try living in a horrible marriage for about a week.  I have been single and alone for longer than you have been alive and I can abound right here with just me a God. 

First God does not owe you anything.  You owe him EVERYTHING!

Grace is God's unmeritted favor not our just reward. 


God does not NEDD you either, he loves you and wants to be close to you. 

If you cannot love God how can you love a wife. 

Wow,
I'm not sure if Mike is still coming to the site or not, but we ALL need to pray for him. It sounds like he has been desiring this ONE thing SOOO much that since he hasn't received it at the time that HE wants it, then the enemy has played on that and made him think that God is a liar. We all know that God is NOT a liar. His promises are true. We cannot focus on one scriputure (as Mike referred to the one in Genesis). If we did, then a lot of us would 'feel' deceived or unsure. That's why there is so much to read in the bible. It's a long story, but it comes all together and will make sense to us if we take the time to read it (this is for Mike and anyone else who may feel like him).
It's sad to know that he is so angry and bitter. I know that Mike will take some time, and even talk to God about his anger. And that God will touch his heart and ease his  mind so that Mike can come back to the truth.....God DOES love you, always has!

I understand that you want someone to love and to love you. But the one thing the Lord may be trying to teach you first is patience. I literally just broke up with my boyfriend of almost 2 years on Thursday because I rushed into a relationship with him because I did not want to wait and it didn't work. So I am single all over again and now must wait for the man God truly has for me.
Mike you are 21 and young. I'm 20 so I get it. You want physical comfort because you feel God spiritually but cannot touch Him physically and that is where a relationship comes in. But God may see that you need more work before you get a girlfriend for whatever reason. I encourage you to stop being angry with God because He is NOT unfaithful we are. He hasn't left nor turned on you. Give it time and you will have the PERFECT woman for you that God has given you specifically.
God bless you...

Mike, I can understand where you're coming from; being the fact that I used to feel the same way about being single.  Shoot, I felt that if God really loved single people, then He would have made it so only married folks feel any desire for one another and not allow singles to feel any kind of longing or desire for a mate. To me, that was only fair and in my mind, I was thinking "why should I have to constantly fight and resist any longings to be loved, held, kissed, ect, ect? Being single used to make me mad because I honestly believed that God wanted me single and I felt that wasn't right! I didn't want that (and still don't, but I aint mad about it anymore)

But you know, the fact of the matter is that we get older. And when we get older, we see things differently than what we did when we were younger. As you keep sticking with God and learn to trust Him, you can begin to enjoy the journey He takes you through. The journey is to prepare you for what God has for you later. So maybe, just maybe, you're not ready for a covenant committed relationship yet with the woman he has for you. Maybe God is preparing you for her and vise versa. Ever think of that? I do.  Learn to wait on Him. He promises to renew your strength, and that even includes lonliness, bro.


No more complaining and having a tantrum just because God won't give you what you want.

  (continued from my last post being the fact that it wouldn't let me finish typing all of what I had to say)

Mike, let God work in you. The fault is not with Him anyways, so why even act and carry on like it is?!  You're only going to drive yourself crazy and make yourself miserable if you keep that attitude up.  And imma tell you right now, no woman in her right mind will even stick around and put up with all that drama and strife from you. Why should she be grieved on account of that, anyways?

God promises all throughout the bible that if you submit to and trust Him, He WILL (not maybe) give you the desires of your heart.

That's all you have to do. So now the question is.....are you willing?  

Dude, I totally get the whole lonely feeling, I'm 19 years old and I haven't found that guy that I'm waiting for either...Cause I've seriously been waiting for awhile to get married and be in love...I don't know why I haven't found him yet but I'm trusting God that he'll come at the right time in my life. Maybe there's a reason you haven't found her yet, don't turn your back on Him because He's not answering you when you want Him too, He's gonna answer when the time is right. So I'll being praying for man and I pray you give your heart back to God.

mike619 - You say you need a woman to "center your life around", but a woman shouldn't be the center of your world, God must be.  You say you're ready for a woman and it is what you want badly, but what you want doesn't matter, God has a plan for you.  The only thing that really matters is what God wants for you, not what you want for yourself.  He will give you what He knows you need when you're ready for it.  And clearly by the things you are saying, you are most definitely not ready for a woman.  You clearly do not trust fully in God, and saying that you have brought more people to salvation at the age of 21 than most people do their entire lives is a facade for your lack of trust in God.  Trust Him.

Mike, you're not going to find any kind of woman worth having with that attitude.  You've got to love yourself enough to reject you own theology about this.  Just about the only person in the Bible who was "handed" a wife by God was Adam.  Others were pretty bold taking their wives.  Quit playing the victim, women want a man who is a bit more assured of himself.

Pray for God to give you a new message to share and the confidence to share it.

-Tracy Love

Hey Mike. I wana help you... I really do. could you make an acout so i could speak to you privatly.
And i would just like to say something to a few people replying to this post. One minute... just gotta find the quotes.

Quote from: OldDad on Thu Sep 03, 2009 - 09:31:11


Folks, please don't feed the...

Why? What kind of encuragement is that!?! I don't ussually get upset about a small post, but this is terrible.
No were in that post do i see the love of Christ. I know i have no athority over these forums but please! If You Have Nothing Nice To Say, Don't Say It.

Thank You ^^

I'm 62 and I haven't made it with a woman, for marriage. So, I can trust God to make me ready, in case. And getting mad and frustrated and lonely is not practicing for how I would want to be with a really all right Jesus lady.

A real lady of Jesus, I offer, is going to have "the incorruptible beauty of a gentle and quiet spirit, which is very precious in the sight of God." (in 1 Peter 3:4) So, in order to be able to get with one like her, I myself need to be beautiful in God's love and submissive and pleasing in His love's "gentle and quiet spirit".

But, even if God still considers me not fit for marriage, I have Christian sisters who are married and they help me to get more with God and they are examples for me, of how I need to become in love and relating, and they never treat me like I am less than they are. So, these are real helpmates who help me, even though we aren't married They help me in ways that matter the most.

So, I'd say it's good to learn how to love with really Christian women, so you are ready to share with one in marriage. But, in order to do this, you will need to be positive with God; because the really Christian ladies are trusting God, even while things can be going so against them; so they aren't going to buy our negative and nasty stuff.

By the way . . . a real woman can tell the difference.

I have had women who were good for me, all along. It's been like I have had the perfect woman, when I needed each one, at each point of being a Christian; but I'm glad, now, none of them married me, now that I can see how I really was. God can work in mysterious ways, and show me, afterward, what I didn't even see, at the time

Plus, another thing . . . if you want a woman who is Christian, she will be obeying Philippians 2:14 which says, "Do all things

                    without complaining and disputing,"

If you want to get with an obedient lady, you need to join with her in how she does every single thing without complaining.

I wouldn't be so angry if God actually cared and gave me someone to love and center my life around. I mean, who the heck WANTS to be lonely?

I know Mike isn't here anymore but this one statement he made is the problem with many single people.  They are looking for another person to center their life around instead of centering it around God and His Christ.

Very nice point there... If i could give manna I shurly would 

Matt, I gave you your first manna!   Why can't you give manna?  Just click under Manna: (add to Manna) on someone's post and share the love (or the kudos)!

Quote from: chosenone on Mon Aug 31, 2009 - 12:44:54
Wow you have PROBLEMS. YOU are immature, angry, bitter, resentful and totally selfish.
So you think that if God doesn't find you a girlfriend NOW you have the excuse to sleep around? Well you don't. The only person who you will hurt will be yourself. Do you think He is scared at your threats? Well He isn't believe me.  You are only 21 that is nothing.You also sound extremely spoilt, demanding and manipulative, more like a 5 year old than a 21 year old..Do you really think that a good father gives his children EVERYTHING that they ask for?Of course he doesnt We have all asked for things that we didnt get. So what.

You don't go to church, you care nothing about anyone but yourself,you cant be bothered about doing anything for anyone and then you wonder why no girl is interested?. Listen to this. No girl will be interested in you the way you are.Believe me, they will run a  mile.

you feel you are entitled to whatever you demand, and you hate God and blame him wrongly for your unhappiness. HE is not to blame and nothing will EVER change until your attitude does.You need to let go of this bitterness and anger and selfishness and allow God to work in you. . The longer you stay like this the more you will get resentful and the more it will eat you up and eventually destroy you.

Goodness me, do you really think you are the only one who has been through stuff? People here including myself have been through real life trauma that you couldn't even imagine. God is NOT responsible for these things, He is there to help. Do you think you are the only one who has been rejected by a girlfriend/boyfriend? Goodness there are many of us here whose marriages have been destroyed after many many years, That is rejection.

You need to take a long hard look at yourself and get help to sort this out. You don't want to turn into a lonely bitter old man do you?

I really hope that you don't treat those you meet like you have treated people here. If you do then no wonder you are lonely. People DO NOT want to be around bitter angry and resentful people. You will drive people away.

Thank you Mike. You have done a wonderful thing. I think this is the first time that chosen and I have been on the same side of an argument before. This is indeed a glorious day.

Sorry man, God said it's not good for man to be alone and needs a help meet for him.  Guess what?  You are not alone and you have a help meet for you.  Check it out.

Heb 13:5-6
5   Let your conversation be without covetousness; and be content with such things as ye have: for he hath said, I will never leave thee, nor forsake thee.
6   So that we may boldly say, The Lord is my helper, and I will not fear what man shall do unto me.
(KJV)

Heb 4:16
16   Let us therefore come boldly unto the throne of grace, that we may obtain mercy, and find grace to help in time of need.
(KJV)

Kind of blows your whole God contradicting himself thing out of the water doesn't it?