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My husband is 13 yrs older than I am yet I feel like Im raising another child. I stay at home and raise 3 children. When he comes home he plays video games all night. When I ask him to help he says " What I have to work two jobs and do your job too". On top of that we are in debt up to our eyeballs and even though he works on commission he spends all our money. If I did't believe in God I would divorce him right now. I love him but I don't have the energy to baby a grown man and keep my sanity at the same time.

that would be tough.  The easiest advise (maybe not the best) is to learn to play video games too.  Not the greatest advise, I know, but those who play together might just learn to communicate in ways that aren't happening now.

Quote from: kayla on Fri Nov 20, 2009 - 19:49:02
My husband is 13 yrs older than I am yet I feel like Im raising another child. I stay at home and raise 3 children. When he comes home he plays video games all night. When I ask him to help he says " What I have to work two jobs and do your job too". On top of that we are in debt up to our eyeballs and even though he works on commission he spends all our money. If I did't believe in God I would divorce him right now. I love him but I don't have the energy to baby a grown man and keep my sanity at the same time.

Do you have your own social circle? I think one of the mistakes most of us SAHM'S make is that we  make our husbands the center of the universe. We  look to them to entertain, romance and fulfill us. We sometimes get resentful that they get to leave the house and be around others they can hold a convo with. Sometimes we feel like they have the ''easy'' job. Sometimes they will even admit that their job is easy comapred to ours. You need to communicate (at a good time), that you are feeling lost,frustarted, etc, without blaming him. You are gonna have those peaks and valleys, that is a given. What bothers you this yr, wont' bother you next yr. I used to get upset when dh played games, now it doesn't even phase me. i do what i like to do while he's playing games, or watching something i don't want to watch. Keep your marriage in prayer and the communication open, and you'll see change.