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Hey everyone! I have a bit of a dilemma that I'm not exactly sure how to respond to. A buddy of mine has been best friends with a girl for years, and he ended up falling in love with her, or so he says. He eventually told her his feelings and she rejected him. She already has a boyfriend anyways and wants to stay with him.

My friend is in a tough place now and is looking to me for advice. The girl wants to stay friends and keep hanging out and my friend wants to as well. I told him, however, that it would not be for the best. I realize they are best friends, but if he keeps seeing and spending time with her then he will never be able to move on. Losing a best friend is terrible, but clinging to a hope that will probably never happen is far worse in my opinion.

So what do you all think? Am I wrong for telling him that? I would very much appreciate any thoughts you might have.

I would give him your thoughts one time and then let it go.  He will make his own decision and figure it out either the easy way or the hard way.  Pray for him regardless and stand by your friend :)

Quote from: fassopony on Wed Aug 25, 2010 - 00:33:55
I would give him your thoughts one time and then let it go.  He will make his own decision and figure it out either the easy way or the hard way.  Pray for him regardless and stand by your friend :)

As above. I don't think there's really any concrete right or wrong answer in this issue. Just be there for him and do your best.

God bless.

Your friend didnt really do the right thing by telling her,being that she has a boyfriend already, but the decison is his really. I personally would find it very hard to keep seeing a person who I was in love with, who was with someone else, but maybe he is still hoping that they will break up and she may want to go out with him.