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I've been with my boyfriend for 11 months until he broke up with me a few nights ago because he's run out of romantic feelings towards me.

I know there's been some strain on our relationship, we've been fighting somewhat frequently when we've never really fought at all before. He spent too much time with me and I depended on him too much to help me with the problems I have with my parents, and his feelings towards me changed from somebody that could see himself marrying me someday to an older brother.

I've been praying a lot about this and all I have really gotten from it is knowing that I should keep fighting for him. I want to give him more space and depend on him less, but I'm so scared I'm going to lose him for good.

Hi and I am so sorry for your pain.
You just have to let him go. If he doesnt see this going anywhere then it wont. It takes two and he isnt wanting to carry on.Give him all the space he needs and if it is right then he will come back, but you may have to accept the fact that he isnt the one for you.
Could it be that after prayer you think you are to keep fighting for him bacause that is exactly what you want to do? Ask God what HE wants and says about it, even if it isnt what you want.Be open and honest about this.

Itimbl . . . You say you have been fighting with each other. I don't know what to write. I need to pray to know what to do and say and write. You need to do what I need to do. If you are fighting, to me this means you are not relating and sharing in God's love like you can. So, you need to stop and get corrected about whatever has you fighting, so this does not continue.

And when we are doing something wrong, this can have us in the wrong spirit so we can be weak enough and out-of-control so we can give in to arguing. So, please consider whatever you two have been doing, that is wrong; because anything you do that is wrong can help to break you down so you can argue and fight. And people have lost their marriages because of arguing. So, this needs to be dealt with, now, for being with him or so you can be getting ready to love in God's way with the guy, later, who turns out to be God's choice for you.

It is God's choice. If you grow in God's love, you will see things differently; don't get stuck with how you are now and what you want now!