Poll: Why did he suddenly break up with me?

[Spelunker11]

1) We dated for 4 months, got to know each other over the course of a year
2) We're teens (under 18)
3) His reason for dumping me was that he just wasn't ready for a relationship, but he said that we could still be friends
4) He seemed VERY INTO ME until one week prior to the break up, when he was a little less physically affectionate and didn't see me quite as often (but that could be because of parental intervention--see 9).
5) Up until MINUTES before the break up he texted me ALL throughout the day (as he always did after we started dating) asking about my opinions, interests, what I was up to, giving me updates about his life, saying good night, etc.
6) I was recovering from surgery... so maybe he just texted all the time because he felt bad for me? We discussed many other things beyond how I was recovering though
7) He bought me flowers about a week before the break up due to my injury
8) He always kept up with doing me little favors/being a gentleman
9) One of his parents (who he is VERY close to/who he allows to control nearly his ENTIRE life) made it clear they did not like him dating. They wouldn't allow us to be completely alone together.
10) He is very passive (conflict avoider) and aims to please his parents first and foremost
11) I was his first gf. As far as I know he hasn't dated in the months since.
12) I said I couldn't be friends for a while because I didn't trust him. He sent the last text saying he was sorry, and neither one of us has initiated contact since.
13) After, he didn't help me with my injury, but acted like a polite stranger up until last month. Now, he acts like I don't exist.
14) I've actively avoided him, making sure he was uninvited from a gathering of mutual friends.
15) When people ask his best friend what happened, the friend says it just "kind of faded"/"ran its course"
16) Due to mutual religious beliefs, we weren't sexual

Why do you think he broke up with me? You can vote A (he got bored with me), B (he wasn't ready for a relationship), or C (his parent made him end it). Thank you so much!!

[Nevertheless]

D. It's part of being a teen.


You won't like hearing this - I know I wouldn't have liked it when I was your age - but it is quite normal for teens to make and break attachments often. It's quite likely that nothing you did or said caused this breakup. The relationship simply ran its course.

[Spelunker11]

^so thats a nice way of saying he got bored with me?

[Spelunker11]

He also hasn't dated anyone since

[chosenone]

How old are you both?

[Spelunker11]

Almost 17

[chosenone]

OK so you are both 16, and maybe his parents think that is too young to seriously date. At 16 he should be listening to his parents, and its not  a question of control,  its that they care about him and dont want him to do anything that may not be right at this time.
However none of us can know why he ended it, only he knows that, but maybe he likes you just as a friend and not as a girlfriend? Most guys of 16 are very immature, and teenagers will often go from one dating partner to another pretty quickly. Often one will be more keen that the other, or one will be more serious than the other, its normal and very common.
Learn from it, and move on. It wasnt meant to be.   

[Nevertheless]

^so thats a nice way of saying he got bored with me?

No, if I thought that, I would have said so. Teenage dating relationships are ephemeral. That's just how it is.

[Spelunker11]

The relationship simply ran its course.

Can you please clarify what you meant by this? Can you please specify what you think caused the breakup?

[MeMyself]

The relationship simply ran its course.

Can you please clarify what you meant by this? Can you please specify what you think caused the breakup?

Have you asked him?

It could be any number of things, and you likely won't get an answer that makes you feel closure.  Just close it yourself and walk away.  Be glad for the memories and the chance to get to know a neat guy.  Keep praying for your future husband and be glad that this relationship didn't get in the way of the man God has for you.

God bless.

[Nevertheless]

Relationships typically go from anticipation to excitement to a steady pleasure. Then there is a point when some kind of discontent enters the picture for one or both parties.

This stage can be explosive or a fizzle. The issues involved can be major, practically unnoticeable, or anything in between. It can be over in a very short time or last for years.

At that point either the couple works things out or the relationship ends.

Teenage relationships usually move through those stages rather quickly.

[Spelunker11]

^Thank you, Nevertheless!

[Nevertheless]

You're welcome.

[Spelunker11]

I'm just so confused because he really seemed to be into even up to the end... but after the breakup I told him I deeply cared and he didn't either reciprocate it or deny he did too, just kept saying he was sorry but he wasn't ready (keep in mind this conversation was all over text). Maybe he didn't want to commit because we'd be forced to separate after graduation?

[chosenone]

I think that the only way you will know is if you ask him, either by email or phone, NOT text.