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Wife Says: My Husband Won’t Talk To Me

In the journey of marriage, communication stands as a cornerstone of building a strong, loving relationship.

Yet, many couples face periods where one partner, particularly husbands, might withdraw into silence, leaving their spouse yearning for open dialogue.

From a Christian standpoint, nurturing communication within marriage is not only essential for the relationship’s health but also echoes biblical principles of love, understanding, and patience.

Understanding His Need for Recovery

Ecclesiastes 3:7 tells us there is “a time to be silent and a time to speak.”

After a long day, many husbands may need a period of silence to recharge, a concept that’s important to respect.

This need for quiet is not a refusal of communication but a way to replenish their energy.

Recognizing and respecting these moments of needed silence can be a profound act of love, allowing your spouse the space to recover, as Jesus Himself often withdrew to quiet places to pray and reflect (Luke 5:16).

Encouraging Openness without Fear

Proverbs 15:4 reminds us that “a soothing tongue is a tree of life, but a perverse tongue crushes the spirit.”

If a husband fears negative reactions or punishment for speaking his mind, he may choose silence over sharing.

Creating an environment where open communication is welcomed and not met with judgment or anger is crucial.

Let your interactions be filled with grace, allowing your husband to share his thoughts and feelings without fear, mirroring the unconditional love Christ shows us.

Initiating Conversations on Shared Interests

Philippians 2:4 encourages us to “look not only to your own interests but also to the interests of others.”

Sparking conversations on topics your husband is passionate about shows that you value his interests and are eager to engage with him on subjects close to his heart.

Whether it’s sports, music, or any other hobby, showing genuine interest can pave the way for deeper discussions and shared experiences, strengthening your bond.

Treasuring His Words

James 1:19 advises us to “be quick to listen, slow to speak and slow to become angry.”

When your husband chooses to open up, treating his words with respect and confidentiality is paramount.

Avoid using his words as ammunition in future disagreements or sharing them without his consent.

Such actions can breach trust and hinder open communication. Instead, let your home be a haven where both of you can share freely, knowing your thoughts and feelings are safe and valued.

Cultivating Shared Hobbies

Engaging in hobbies together can significantly enhance communication.

As 1 Peter 4:10 teaches, “Each of you should use whatever gift you have received to serve others, as faithful stewards of God’s grace in its various forms.”

Exploring shared interests allows you to serve one another through quality time, building memories and facilitating conversations in a relaxed setting.

This shared joy can naturally lead to more open and frequent communication.

Here is a list of hobbies for married couples where you can each select at least 20 hobbies you have interest in and have your spouse do the same.

Then have your spouse do the same.

See which hobbies you share interest in and start doing at least one together.

Nurturing Your Marriage Through Christ

Remember, the goal of communication in marriage is to reflect the love and understanding that Christ has shown us.

As you navigate the challenges of an open dialogue with your husband, keep your heart and mind focused on God’s word.

Embrace patience, understanding, and love in your approach, trusting that through faith and dedication, your marriage can grow stronger in every aspect.

For those seeking to deepen their marital connection, consider exploring resources like the free mini-course on saving a marriage, available through Additionally, the “Relationship Reignite” workshop offers comprehensive guidance for couples facing challenges, providing tools and insights to rekindle the love and communication that may have dimmed.

In every effort to improve communication within your marriage, let your actions be guided by the principles of love, patience, and understanding that are rooted in our faith.

By doing so, you and your husband can build a relationship that not only withstands the tests of time but also glorifies God in its enduring strength and love.


Coach Lee