I know. I know. Nobody is supposed to be “judgmental.” It is the cardinal sin of Christians. And it is the response we get from non-Christians about every nod we make in the direction of hinting that some things are right – and others wrong. Especially with reference to the latter, we are reminded that judging is wrong.
Other than the obvious contradiction in saying “Judging is wrong” – which is, of course, a judgment itself – it simply makes no sense to make an unqualified statement of that sort. We make judgments every day about drinking water over rat poison, stopping at school crossings rather than running through lines of children, or telling the truth over lying. We even make judgments of others by deciding to work for a department store over a street gang or hanging around with law-abiding folks who like movies over drug dealers who kill people.
“But didn’t Jesus tell us ‘Judge not that you be not judged’?” somebody asks. Of course, he did. But it was hardly an unqualified statement. He certainly made judgments about behaviors and people. He called some people “snakes” and others “children of the devil.” Sounds pretty judgmental to me.
Jesus’ statement “Judge not that you be not judged” is from Matthew 7:1. It opens a paragraph about hypocrisy and forbids condemning in others what you may be doing too. It prohibits poking holes in the reputation of your neighbor when your own character needs work first.
A fuller statement from Jesus on the matter of judging is this one: “Look beneath the surface so you can judge correctly” (NLT). Or, in the traditional versions: “Do not judge by appearances, but judge with right judgment.” The verse is John 7:24, and it does not contradict the one quoted above. It says the same thing in different words: You must make judgments. Make good ones.
At the start of a new year, it might help lots of us to get clear on this judging business. It is simply a matter of distinguishing good from bad, right from wrong, commanded from forbidden. In order to stay on one side of the line that divides the two, you have to make some judgments.
And why is this so important? Matthew 7:1 may have become the most abused and misused text of our time. It is thrown in the faces of people who often care enough about someone to hold him accountable for lying or drinking too much. It is the defense against being held accountable for doing wrong.
Yes, some people are harsh and judgmental – in a bad way. They look for fault. They are quick to criticize. They seem to delights in another’s failure. But I need people in my life who are accountability partners. They help me stay true to the things I say I believe. They keep me from getting too far off track. It’s a bit like having a sponsor in Alcoholics Anonymous – or a friend who cares about you.
An ancient proverb puts it this way: “An open rebuke is better than hidden love! Wounds from a sincere friend are better than many kisses from an enemy” (Proverbs 27:5-6 NLT).
by Dr. Rubel Shelly
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